Adopting a child that we know who is being fostered

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Hi all,

Wanted to ask a question - especially if there is anyone who works within adoption services on here or has been in this situation before.

My in-laws foster and currently are looking after a child that my partner and I have built a great bond with and would love to adopt. How likely is it that this would be accepted by social services? Would they say that the child needs to go to a family on the waiting list? Totally understand that it might look like we are 'jumping the queue' but the fact that the child already knows and is comfortable with us and we could do a smooth transition would surely help them?

Just looking for advice/thoughts.

Thanks!

Edit. Foster family have been told child is definitely going to go to adoption as no blood relatives are able to care for them after assessments

It's possible but you'd have to be assessed as adopters. I'd suggest your in laws inform the child's sw asap.

I know of a foster carer who's adult daughter adopted her foster child.

You can only ask. However they may decline you due to the delay that assessing you will cause for the child. However if he's still young and your relatives are willing to keep him while you're assessed it's possible.

You need to make application to the LA to be assessed as adopters

If you genuinely have developed a significant relationship and bond with the child that would be to the child's benefit.

Is the case still in proceedings?

I know of multiple families where this has been the long term outcome for fostered children - and is seen as really positive for children as it is much less of a loss of their primary attachment figures, greater understanding of their early life etc. You & your in-laws need to let the social workers know as soon as possible - even if you're not 100% sure, ask to have the conversation with them soon so you can make an informed decision.

The view is taken very much from a perspective of what is best for the child - not adopters. "Jumping the queue" doesn't come into it.

Totally possible and they may even consider a different version of ‘foster to adopt’. The child could potentially move placements to you as you are already known to the child and are part of their network, and then they could start the assessment. However, the local authority would do some preliminary assessments/checks first to confirm you are a viable option, and that an adoption assessment would be positive. I have known this to happen and the child moved in whilst the adoption assessment was still being undertaken. You’d need to declare an interest initially and fairly soon so that they can consider all the information. Good luck.