Hello,
This is really complicated but please bare with me.
Through a friend, I've been introduced to a guy who has a electronic tag on his ankle and 4+ criminal records for various things. He had a child with a lady but she's a drug addict and forbidden from ever seeing her child. Let's call the child Penny and her father John. Penny's mother is white but her father is Asian.
John sees Penny through Social serves once a month for a hour or two.
John does not have a uk passport and I've been told he's at risk of being deported for his criminal record?
He says that under no circumstances does he want Penny.
Apparently, social services have said that Penny can be adopted/fostered (not sure which and John doesn't speak the best of English) if John (the father) finds a suitable family who will have her? All he needs to do is sign her over?
I'm so confused and new to all this! Can someone please shed some light and tell me if this is even possible at the slightest?
Penny has been in care (at a child centre?) since she was 2 months. She's now 3 years old.
I am English and my husband is Asian, we are married, dual income of £80,000, have a spare bedroom, don't have kids and don't plan to have any for at least another 3 years. Can we adopt or foster Penny?
I've only seen videos of Penny from John and have completely fallen in love with and my heart aches that she's basically like an orphan... please help x
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jenison99 · 15/06/2023 23:16
jenison99 · 15/06/2023 23:16
Hello,
This is really complicated but please bare with me.
Through a friend, I've been introduced to a guy who has a electronic tag on his ankle and 4+ criminal records for various things. He had a child with a lady but she's a drug addict and forbidden from ever seeing her child. Let's call the child Penny and her father John. Penny's mother is white but her father is Asian.
John sees Penny through Social serves once a month for a hour or two.
John does not have a uk passport and I've been told he's at risk of being deported for his criminal record?
He says that under no circumstances does he want Penny.
Apparently, social services have said that Penny can be adopted/fostered (not sure which and John doesn't speak the best of English) if John (the father) finds a suitable family who will have her? All he needs to do is sign her over?
I'm so confused and new to all this! Can someone please shed some light and tell me if this is even possible at the slightest?
Penny has been in care (at a child centre?) since she was 2 months. She's now 3 years old.
I am English and my husband is Asian, we are married, dual income of £80,000, have a spare bedroom, don't have kids and don't plan to have any for at least another 3 years. Can we adopt or foster Penny?
I've only seen videos of Penny from John and have completely fallen in love with and my heart aches that she's basically like an orphan... please help x
inappropriateraspberry · 15/06/2023 23:22
Social services number? Are you in America? This is very odd.
EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 15/06/2023 23:27
I am being serious you are being scammed
Social Services do NOT ask the parent of a removed child to arrange their placement because they have proven themselves an unsafe adult
It just doesn't work like that, you are being lied to.
Dumbphone · 15/06/2023 23:24
John needs to put you forward, look up special guardianship. However, you have no existing relationship with penny which is a prerequisite so sounds unlikely a court would grant this. You can make a private application - but convoluted and again, less likely to be successful. Try again with social worker.
Also - you want to check your motivations there, coming across as a saviour complex. Do a bit of reading around the topic, kids who are in care are not ‘orphans’ in need of saving. Penny has two parents, they’re not dead. That means something for her.
EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 15/06/2023 23:27
I am being serious you are being scammed
Social Services do NOT ask the parent of a removed child to arrange their placement because they have proven themselves an unsafe adult
It just doesn't work like that, you are being lied to.
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EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 15/06/2023 23:27
I am being serious you are being scammed
Social Services do NOT ask the parent of a removed child to arrange their placement because they have proven themselves an unsafe adult
It just doesn't work like that, you are being lied to.
SilverCatStripes · 15/06/2023 23:46
Hi OP you need to just have a reality check here.
This isn’t how fostering or adoption works in the UK. This is a scam.
Please contact your local fostering and adoption service tomorrow and have a chat with them - they will be able to help advise you if you want to start thinking about fostering or adoption, and it will be useful to flag this to them so they can be aware.
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