What is it like when the child is adopted?

[Horehound]

I have neighbours who foster a wee boy. He is so sweet and I see then carrying him to and from their car and he just looks so lovely hanging on to them, being loved etc. It got me wondering...when this boy is adopted (Im just assuming this is the end goal here?) Will these lovely neighbours find it difficult? He's only 13 months or so and I think they've had him for quote some time so when adoption happens is it done very gradually?
I feel like I want to foster but I think I'd get too emotionally connected that I'd find it hard to give up!

Just interested really. I haven't spoken to the neighbours about it as we only moved here a few months ago and haven't really spoken to them yet

The end goal may well be to return him to birth family.

Sometimes foster carers choose to adopt especially if the child has been with them over a year or is 'hard to place'.

However a 13month old would have quite quick introductions, maybe 7-10 days as anything longer confuses them.

The FCs of my CDs were fantastic, really putting the needs of my DCs first. How they cope moving children on is beyond me. I guess they always know that is the plan, and 'success' is seeing the child moving on to stability. Must be a wrench though.

Thank you for your response :) Wow 7-10 days seems so fast, I'm really surprised at that!

Sorry I'm not down on the lingo what is a CD?
Yes I feel emotional thinking of that wee boy going away from these lovely people!

CD was a typo for DC!

My DC had 4 weeks of intros, though the last week included 5 overnights. But my elder one was 8 and needed it. The younger though was only 2.5, and it was far far too long for her. She didn't know if she was coming or going.

My adopted ds foster parents didn't cope super well initially. They had wanted to adopt him but we're not found to be the best match in the end and he came to us. There was a lot of crying and near hysteria on the day we left with him. If fact we discovered we had left a load of his belongings with them but couldn't go back and collect them as it would have been too traumatic for them.
But we all fell info our new rolls eventually. We still meet up with them occasionally twenty years on. Their own children have done anazing things and they have recieved any number of awards for services to foster care. It's got to be so hard for them though.

Aw @MrsPsmalls that sounds so sad for the initial changeover.
For all parties it must be just a rollercoaster of emotions. That's nice you are still in touch with them.

@teenminustests aw that does sound hard for the wee one. So young to be going through that but I guess she won't remember much about it?