Kinship Care and Difficult Questions

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Hi there,

I have stepped forward to be assessed as a kinship carer and SW has said they would want this to lead to a SGO, so I was wondering if anyone had some info or advice about the assessment process?

I also have a more specific question, which is surely me getting ahead of myself but I can't get it out of my head.
I'm new to mumsnet and do not understand the common abbreviations, so I'm going to refer to the children involved as A, B and C.

A, B and C were taken away from their mother and C's father. Child A is my cousin's son. My cousin did not know about him until child services contacted him as a potential father, after A, B and C had been taken into care. A is now living with my cousin and they are doing great, I am being assessed to take B and C.
Since the children were taken into care their mum and C's dad have split up and neither will be getting the children back. B and C were going to be put up for adoption until I stepped forward, but if they are place with me they will both still have visitation with mum and C with their dad.
We do not know who B's dad is. The only name mum has offered has been DNA tested and is not the father.
Now, I am a single woman who always wanted children but does not want a partner, so before we found out about A, B and C I was already looking at non-traditional ways of starting a family, and was prepared for any children I had to ask me why they don't have a daddy and I would respond about how all families are different, and some children don't have daddies, etc.
But what happens when/if B comes to me saying 'A has a daddy and C has a daddy, why don't I have one?'

I will never lie to any child in my care and when they are old enough to understand, I will of course explain to B that their mum doesn't know who their dad is. But B is 3 right now.
Any suggestions?
I know that in all likelihood I have a while before I need to worry about this but, as I said, since it occurred to me I can't get it out of my head. And it's not too different than some of the hypotheticals that my cousin said he was asked in his assessment, so maybe I will need to show I've thought about it if asked.

Also, any general advice about kinship care, SGO and the assessment will be greatly appreciated :D

I really think you're jumping way ahead of yourself. The social worker will prepare life story with with the child and you will be supported to have those conversations appropriately.
I would say try not to worry too much and write down all questions to ask the social worker when they asses you.

Just a question. Are you related in anyway to b and c? I know you are to a via your cousin.

@MrsPsmalls No I'm not related to B and C. It's my understanding that any relations through mum and C's dad either said they couldn't take them or failed their assessment.
My cousin was asked if he'd take all three to keep the siblings together but his circumstances meant that he couldn't take on all three, my aunt (A's grandmother) was asked too but felt she was too old. So B and C were going to be put up for adoption before I stepped forward.