Destructive behaviour

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Hi, I'm not a fosterer, but I do have a lac child who will be coming to stay with me for some respite for his aunty who has recently become his main carer due to a sudden death in the family..
He's a 7yo boy who's mother was unable to care for him due to learning disabilities.
I'm looking for advice on how to deal with his ongoing destructive behaviour when he visits me and my 10yo son. He runs around the house screaming, and he's very rough with his toys. He'll pile them up in the middle of the room and smashes them as part of the game. He runs around hitting my son as part of a wrestling game, which in part is encouraged by my son until someone gets hurt.
Also, every now and again he'll start punching and kicking an adult when he's totally out of control. He's aware of the damage he is causing and is very very sorry after.

I just need to know how I can deal with this behaviour in a positive way so he will listen to me and stop what he's doing.

I think it is important to deal with this behaviour in the same way that his current carer(s) address it which will probably be a strategy agreed with their social worker. This will also help protect you against any allegations that might crop up about your strategy being inappropriate.

I would look at how you can adjust your environment to try and reduce the impact of his behaviour, for example reducing the number of things around that can get broken/ damaged.

Some of our students have a 'traffic light' plan to support their behaviour.

For example what does 'green' (all calm) behaviour look like, what can we do to help the child stay in 'green' etc. Then looking at 'amber' behaviours - those warning signs that the child is not coping, becoming over excited, becoming frustrated, becoming over stimulated etc - then how can we support the child to move back into 'green'. Finally looking at 'red' when the child is completely overwhelmed - what can we do to help keep everyone safe and support the child.

These plans are written with parents, health professionals, educational professionals and social care professionals if necessary.

Thank you lorisparkle