Dealing with child leaving

[Madwife123]

Didn’t expect this to hit me so hard.

Foster son has left us today. Slightly complicated as he is related to us so we know him well and love him dearly prior to him living with us.

It absolutely had to happen and we are not the right placement for him but it’s broken my heart.

We still have his sister with us and she is heartbroken also. It’s awful to watch her so sad and feel guilty about it. Just wish there was another option other than splitting them up but sadly not.

Have spent most of the evening in tears on and off, trying to hide them from the very sad little one. Tell me this gets better!

My foster baby moved yesterday, I am so sad yet so happy for him. It does get easier in time

Really feeling for you, the dark side of fostering ...
and hugs

A child has come to stay with us, seperated from her siblings , upset but also this needed to happen for all of them it's only done in the childs best interest you have to go with your gut it will get easier stay strong x

I wrote this about a kid moving on
fosteringandadoptionwithphil.com/2021/01/07/have-you-seen-little-orphan-annie-well-its-nothing-like-that/

Because of the nature of work I'm in I work very closely with children's services and a few times have been asked why DH and I don't consider fostering, he is also in a profession that would equip him to deal with children from more challenging environments, and we only have one DS, my pregnancy was horrific so I won't do it again. But this is why, I know I just couldn't let them go, even if I knew it was what was best in the long run. All credit to you OP and others who foster, you are doing something incredible.

Make sure you discuss how you are feeling with your supervising social worker. It is a form of loss and grief. Try to remain in contact as much as you can with the child which will show them you love and care for them regardless. Best wishes