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auntiemummy · 11/06/2020 00:30

So recently started looking after my sil twins, not the first time. This time feels different - like she wants me to look after them all the time but would never let me keep them permanently even tho she and everyone else can see how much they thrive living with me n my partner.

Back story is sil has 8 kids, recently in new relationship which totally consumes her.

She's smokes weed like most people smoke fags. Drinks and does other types of drugs mainly speed.

Her kids are high risk because of her crazy baby daddies. And the fact she's well useless at been a mother.

The twins permanently live in the living room she never takes them out - the other kids either stuck on computers or playing out on streets the older ones who are 12 13 15 drink smoke n never go to school even before lock down.

She does have a support worker
She has evolvement from SS but still they leave these kids to become ferral

We have taken the twins on "holiday" we don't live in the same city so can't pop over to help her
So we said we'd take them for a week or so because we feel extremely sorry for them. Neglect that's what it is.

She's barely rings them to check on them
She asked us to keep them longer ( longer they stay the better) for them

But we can't afford to keep them without help permanently she won't even give us nappy or milk money (she's skint)

I've reported her , my partner has , nowt we are like she can't look after the twins properly- she even sends them to their dads for a break
In his one bed house he shares with a friend
Where they grow weed sell weed
He doesn't have beds for them !!! So she can have a break!

Anyways
I read someone if u have your niece or nephew for longer than 28 days u can claim for them

I duno what to do
I don't want to send these kids back
It's not ideal us having them we have our own kids but we can't let them live like this any more
Any advice please?

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auntiemummy · 11/06/2020 17:09

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MagnoliatheMagnificent · 02/08/2020 15:31

Any progress with this? Sounds like an awful situation for the children with their Mum, Hopefully you are able to help.

circumventgatekeeper · 02/08/2020 15:41

An you get in touch with her Social worker?

Not sure what to suggest really finance wise, she'll not want them to be formally fostered because then any social security payments will go to you not her??

Polkasquare · 28/08/2020 17:43

You need to phone up social services and ask them.

bexollie · 22/11/2020 12:29

This needs reporting to social services . The kids are getting damaged and being neglected whichbwill have a long term impact on them. They deserve stability and it doesn't sound like their support worker is helping that much . They deserve better and someone needs to speak up to protect them .

JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/11/2020 12:33

That's a very difficult situation.

Is money the only thing that's bothering you about keeling them long term?

Madwife123 · 30/11/2020 13:59

Ring the social worker with each and every concern you have. Those other children need protecting also. If the children are removed from her care you can become a kinship foster carer and receive a fostering allowance. As far as I am aware there is no financial support to voluntary foster a child that isn’t looked after.

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