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Fostering my grandson, worried about doctor check

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Underpressure96 · 22/07/2018 19:10

I am in the process of taking custody of my daughters 2 month old son and am going through various check by ss.
My daughter is a heroin addict and found out about the pregnancy very late on. I was initially unsure about whether I was in a position to take on my grandson. He was born 2 months premature therefore we had barely any time to even process it all. He was taken into temporary foster care a month ago once he was discharged from hospital.
When he was born my daughters midwife recommended I go to the doctors for support. When going to the doctors I was in a bad way as my grandson had just been born, my daughter wasn't in a good way and everything was very stressful. The doctor told me at the time she would not recommend me for fostering after the appointment.
However since then (around 2 months ago) I have had time to process everything and see that I am perfectly capable of caring for my grandson and want nothing more. I am worrying about the doctors assessment I have to have because of the appointment I had when my grandson was first born. I have been going to the same doctors for 20 odd years and have never had any issues like this or any mental health problems, it was just an incredibly stressful time and just one appointment which I'm worrying could negatively affect everything.
Does anyone have any advice or thoughts on how this could affect me getting custody of my grandson?

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Lollypop701 · 22/07/2018 19:48

Didn’t want to read n run. I have no advice but hopefully someone will be along soon. Good luck op

IVEgotthePOWER · 22/07/2018 19:51

I would hope the gp would realise you were in shock and emotionally torn op. And that they see you now in a better place, put that with your history and your grandson can be with you.

Is your daughter having contact?

flossietoot · 22/07/2018 19:56

It isn’t up to the Doctor! Social work will do a whole range of their own assessments and will generally always go for a kinship placement if they can.

Underpressure96 · 22/07/2018 19:57

Thank you lollypop701.
My daughter is having contact and has been clean since she found out she was pregnant (1 month before he was born)
He did experience withdrawal when he was first born (my daughter is on a methadone prescription) but was weaned off very quickly thank goodness

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