My two teenagers? horrible, smelly, drama ridden, back chatting, never full, constantly growing teenagers? they are brilliant!
They are brother and sister aged 13 & 16. When we went to panel we asked to be approved for 8 years and up as didn't feel our skills were best placed to deal with screaming babies (I love them really).
I think now two years in and having gone to support groups (my IFA makes me) and talked with other carers we have been "lucky" with the YP we have. They have experienced trauma (wouldn't be in care if they hadn't) but to our knowledge nothing other general neglect due to birth families personal challenges, when friends of the kids find out they are in care they are generally surprised - outwardly they are smart, popular and folk generally enjoy their company. This is now however.....in the beginning i was called to school every week, one week, every day! But so what? that was then this is now, yes its tough sometimes but my advice would be to take the horror stories with a pinch of salt, kids are in care because of NOTHING they have done personally so what if they lash out, call you every horrible name under the sun, demand to phone social work to be moved, its not really about them hateing you its bigger than you - its their lives at the end of the day and they were dealt a bad hand ........help them beat the house!
P.s don't think for one minute I don't know about kids causing damage to houses personal objects or having "sticky fingers". In the beginning help them make the right choices, don't leave cash lying around and make sure your insurance is excellent!