First of all, let me begin by saying I can't explain every little thing because that would take me a couple days to write.
So, a little backstory on these two boys.
They are 11 and 5, currently.
2 years ago, their father (my brother) became incarcerated for 4 1/2 years. 2 years ago, their mother (brothers ex gf), who had the children in her primary care, became incarcerated and both lost full custody of the kids. They needed to go to family or the system, so they went to family. My mother. Who happens to be grammy.
Now, you would think that would work perfect. Negative.
Grammy has had a brain surgery and a grand mal seizure that has negatively impacted her life. She can barely take care of herself, let alone 2 children. I am only 23 and recently going through a divorce, I can't take care of 2 children either.
Now, on to the trouble here.
We don't want to give them up to the state, because this isn't their fault, but we're running out of options. The oldest boy is and has always, been trouble. He's constantly fighting with kids in school, being suspended, being kicked off the school bus. He has a bad attitude, and the mouth of a sailor. AT 11.
The 5 year old just doesn't listen at all. Everything we say goes in one year and out the other. But he isn't anywhere as bad at the 11 year old. YET.
There is a long history of drugs and violence from their parents. So, we know they are mentally ruined. But, we're at our wits end with providing care for this unruly and hateful child. Any suggestions?