Trying not to cry

[ghostinthecanvas]

Youngest ds is doing homework. It's a book review. He had to write about how he relates to the book. He has just said "the main character doesn't live with his family and neither do I." He has lived with us for years and is permanent. He was never freed for adoption and if he had been we probably would have. We had a lovely talk at tea last night about family, how we all have grown together and we now feel like a proper family. I know he struggles but it fair took my breath away.
I will get over it too. Always do. Yesterday just felt like a huge step forward.

My bio dad left before I was born and I was raised by my wonderful step dad. even though I completely thought of him as my dad I still identified as someone who was fatherless, my mum was single until I was six, so it was a chunk of my life I didn't have a dad, even when I had had a dad for longer than I didn't, it was still a part of me. it was something interesting about me, and a way to relate to others, like DS is doing with the character in the book. it was in NO WAY a reflection on my step dad. I think kids are good at compartmentalising things. X

Thanks Denny. Actually my eldest grew up in almost exactly the same circumstances as you so I know how those first years impact. I shouldn't have taken it as personally as I did. I was reminded by DH that ds completely ignored the fact that his siblings live with him too so I have gotten over myself. I agree kids are great at compartmentalising.