Thanking my sons FC

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Hi all

I hope you don't mind me posting here. I relinquished my little boy at birth - conceived through rape, domestic violence, long term issues with self harm/depression meant I felt unable to care for him in a way he deserves.

The placement order has been granted and we're waiting on his potential adopters to go to matching panel (I think that's what the SW called it).

His FC has taken brilliant care of him and always been lovely when I've met her, I just wondered how you'd feel about getting a thank you card from a foster child's birth parent?

Any advice much appreciated

I am not a foster carer so I hope you don't mind me posting but that sounds like a lovely thing to do. You also sound lovely and strong to have done the best for your boy in such terrible circumstances

Hi, I'm a foster care and often receive cards and flowers from birth parents when their child goes home or is adopted. I always feel mixed emotions - happy that I made a difficult time as positive as possible for them, and sadness at the situation. Being the bridge in a child's life is a very precious role, which we take very seriously. I'm sure a card would be very appreciated and may be a positive thing for you too.
Take care x

I am a foster carer, although I'm quite new to it and haven't fostered a baby or had much contact with birth parents.

Despite that I think I can safely say there isn't a foster carer in the land who wouldn't treasure a card like that and think it was a lovely gesture.

I'd say it would be a lovely thing to do.

Please look after yourself.

I've worked supporting foster carers and can guarantee a card like that would go in the to keep box.

I'm a foster carer. I've got a lovely flowering shrub in my garden that the parents of one of my foster children gave me when they moved back home. It's a lovely reminder (and we stayed in touch with the parents via Christmas card too).

Your post in itself made me smile
Grand gestures can be embarrassing, but a thoughtful card is so treasured!