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hopefullmama · 14/09/2014 11:09

Well we have just had a newsletter posted out to all carer's detailing the LA's view on foster carer's requesting to adopt the child in their care. They basically don't want foster carers to apply as its not "appropriate", we are there to foster and not adopt! What makes it worse is that I am about to submit a request to adopt my foster child! Talk about timing. Obviously, although my SW and child's SW are supportive, the adoption team clearly have issues. Any advice appreciated.

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fasparent · 14/09/2014 14:00

Simple they are out of order, ??? why have new legislation "Fostering too adopt" see www.first4adoption.co.uk can apply using this one should think. or ask advice off them.
Good luck.

hopefullmama · 14/09/2014 17:44

Thank you. Yes, they honestly seem to think that they "own" us!!

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hopefullmama · 14/09/2014 17:47

Thinking about it, fostering to adopt is people who want to adopt and have been approved, fostering a child that may then come up for them to adopt, so it is different.

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fasparent · 14/09/2014 18:29

Still have too be approved fostering of not Google fostering too adoption CORUM should give you better perspective, We have adopted 8 all from foster care , seems to be smack of internal institutionalism too say it is not appropriate too adopt a child who is in a loving and secure family home.,
strange .

willowrose30 · 14/09/2014 19:12

Sounds very strange.
We currently have children in placement going through the court process and the guardian approached us about possible adoption.
Seems that the foster family would be ideal people to adopt as the children are already settled and happy.
I hope it all works out well for you.

excitedmamma · 14/09/2014 20:48

We adopted our fosterling....

How can they say its not in the best interest of the child? Or are they worried about losing Foster Carers?

Strange

scarlet5tyger · 14/09/2014 21:40

My own LA used to be VERY anti foster carers adopting - my own SSW almost fainted when I raised the subject! With the huge push to reduce the number of children waiting for adoption though (and also the massive budget cuts of recent years) their view has changed considerably and we're all now encouraged to 'go for it'.

Not sure what the reaction would be if I actually tested them though...

SorrelForbes · 14/09/2014 21:43

How odd. During our last placement we were asked three times if we would consider adopting our FC.

hopefullmama · 15/09/2014 13:26

Thanks for your input. I will certainly fight them. Once I find out what is happening, I will escalate their questionable attitude to my MP. Its discrimination in my opinion. Any prospective adopter should be welcomed with open hands. Obviously I know everyone needs to be assessed fairly and correctly, but at any time there are around 5,000+ children waiting to find their forever families, and everything should be done to encourage people to come forward, especially those foster carers who have been bringing them up for years! Its true they probably don't want to loose a foster carer, but there are more people coming forward to foster than there are to adopt. Most foster carers carry on fostering after a break anyway.

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feathermucker · 15/09/2014 14:04

My son was in a foster placement a few years ago. The family he was with adopted another little girl they were fostering; I know they had to jump through a lot of hoops to do so, lots more than the normal adoption process.

They're friends now Grin

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