Wanting to adopt.

[kansan911]

Hi,
me and my partner have only been fc's for a short time, the child we have placed with us we want to adopt,(we have had them since birth) we expressed an interest but have no backing from, sw, la etc so was turned down, Is there anything we can do?
Or is there no hope without them on board?
cheers

It's not uncommon for new foster carers to want to adopt the first child who is placed especially when you have had the child since birth. It is very hard to give up a child when this is the case, but that's part of the social work task and I'm sure if you talk to other carers they will tell you of children they have cared for and have become special to them but have had to move on.

How long has the child been with you and what age is he/she/

Is the care plan that the child is to be placed for adoption. If so and he is a young child without any medical condition, or part of a large sibling group, then there will be many approved adopters awaiting a placement. I'm afraid there isn't anything you can do as you have no legal rights over the child as the PR is held by the LA. The LA should give you reasons why they are not willing to consider you for adoption.

Difficulties can arise if the birthparents and extended family live in the same geographical area as you and know where you live. Birthparents are not made aware of where adopters live.

But do ask the LA for their reasons and talk to other carers who will help you to move this child on, which is a very important task and it will be good for you to know that he is going to a couple who have been longing for a baby of their own and will give him a loving home.

Main reason is lack of experience with moving children on, and yes they have the adoptability factor.

Well that's something you will have to get used to as foster carers but it is especially difficult when you have a child from birth. I think even experienced carers struggle with this situation. Remember that you have an important task ahead to help the adoptive parents get to know the child and they are usually very nervous and good foster carers make them feel at ease and talk to them about the child's routine, likes and dislikes etc but try to show that you are pleased they are getting their much wanted child. Talk to other carers about this difficult situation.