BP's

[cazzmags]

Is it just me or does everyone else struggle with birth parents? God knows I try but for me this is one of the hardest parts of fostering.

I don't want to generalise, clearly some parents work well with foster carers and support placements but for me it is a continual struggle particularly in trying to be 'nice' when actually I want to scream at them sometimes.

How do you all cope? I don't transport as much as I used to and my foslings don't have much contact so I am able to avoid these encounters as much as possible but when they do occur I'm usually quietly fuming for a few days at what is said or done

I hear you. I keep telling myself to rise above it, that their opinion of me is irrelevant to the lives of the kids. But it boils my p* some days that she gets to say the things she does, and I just have to take it. What with her being mother of the year and all that...

When I feel charitable, I remind myself that she is also, in her own way, a victim. and that she is defending her corner in the only way she knows how - by nit picking. It makes her feel better about the situation, and while it annoys me, I know its just grandstanding on her part.

Yep, had a stressful few weeks with thus emergency placement because of BP. LO is a joy but it'll be a relief when she leaves tomorrow.

Note to self: It's never a good idea ti give BP your mobile number

Unbelievable. Just got LOs registered with local GP, but today got notification from our GP that my LOs have not had their MMR.

BM swore blind that their jabs were up to date. Grrrrrr!!!!!

A lesson learnt a cheep mobile with pay as you go sim xxx been there done that and the t shirt was horrid xxxx

I know working with BP can be difficult (oh boy do I know!) but I just wanted to add that I've met some lovely parents too who've just got themselves into situations they couldn't get out of, or who've had a pretty awful life dealt to them. A lot of the parents I deal with (usually just mums as dads have buggered off, except to reappear when they need money or someone to punch) are very, very young and often just out of care themselves. It's fantastic to see these young parents get some confidence in themselves and start to believe they can change things if they want. It's also very very frustrating when they don't!

Okay I'll stop now before my SSW tries to rope me into training!