help Fostering

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I have been a care-worker for over 12 years, looking after children with behavioural and emotional difficulties.
Despite this background I had not considered fostering before but after moving to an new care home I was given a Key-child. The residential house was very challenging initially making me think I may have made an mistake. I'm happy to say that things did calm eventually and I was able to build a positive relationship with my Key-child, so much so that the young person was able to trust and confine in me his wishes and desires to be fostered in a loving and caring family.
In hindsight I can see I was emotionally led when I first posed the question to the young person's SW to foster and got caught up in the id as well I wrote to the grandparents for their blessing as he was a look after child I would need to have the SW approval with grandparents backing.
My previous employer informed me that I had not followed the correct procedure and with immediate effect terminated my employment.
I do not hold any grievance to the company as I can see why and understand my mistake of speaking to an SW before my past employers, however that said I could not understand why something that was so positive to provide a caring and loving consistent fun environment (home) could be turned into an personal attack on my integrity and intentions when asking to foster a truly loving young person.
On my last phone call the SW there were reservations about moving the young person out of the residential school due to previous breakdowns with other foster carers and I can fully understand this but still with my level of experience and knowledge and a loving home I could see the emotional positive benefits to give growth to the young person to best provide loving/caring home to release his full potential.
My concerns are that child (x) would develop more negative behaviours due his environment being as he has ADHD, with the real concern of potential re-evaluation to use behavioural modification drug treatments in the future.
This is only an concern not a fact, anyhow my question is despite my mismanagement I still feel the same about fostering and what should I do if the child (x) wants to be a part of my family .

I would see writing to the grandparents as being the big mistake you made, not speaking to the sw. I presume you didn't indicate anything to the child about fostering him?

I would go very very slowly if you are still pursuing this. The child will have had many disappointments in his short life and rejections.

If you did go ahead with this you would have to go through the fostering process which takes at least 6 months. Have you got your own children?

I understand you wanting to foster him. I worked in a residential school before fostering and wanted to take a few of them home

For all your good intentions I think you have gone about this entirely the wrong way and that in itself will prevent you from fostering that particular child. You have interfered with proper procedures. However, I do think that's a shame and he may truly flourish with you. SS will be looking at the bigger picture though, and maybe he is following a pattern that is already familiar to them?

That's not to say that if you are interested in fostering you wouldn't be accepted and make a wonderful fc.

Just my opinion, and I hope I'm wrong as you sound lovely