New to this and concerned about hubbies past

[newme22]

My hubby is an amazing Dad unfortunately his ex-wives are a little testy let?s say. He married very young and had a daughter with a woman, who in turn ran away with the child and he has been unable to trace her since she was 2 (20 years ago now) despite several attempts. He also had 2 other children with his 2nd wife, she has gone out of her way to cause trouble for us and on many occasions will stop contact all together as a way of punishing us if we can't fit in with her plans or refuse to give her extra money.

I know that she will have some really bad things to say about my hubby which are very untrue - contact has always been hit and miss as we live 100 miles and she refuses to meet us with the children or changes dates at the last minute when she knows my hubby is working etc. so it has been very hard for us and she seems to resent the fact I have a good relationship with the kids.

We have been together for 10 years and married for 5 years, I know we have so much to offer to a child and have done so much with his children already and this wouldn't stop but I feel that this would be something we could do together and we are both on board but I really do get the impression she is going to go out of her way to cause trouble . . will this mean that we fail at the first hurdle? I understand that she is the childrens Mother and I have never tried to take that away from her but I don?t like the idea that she has control over this part of my life also.

Any help would be great, thanks in advance.

Sorry don't means to pick but you say you have been with oh for 10 years so I not sure I understand how seconed wife stops contact the chikdren must be in their mid to late teens so surly the choice would be there's wether they have contact or not it's very diffcult to believe that a parent would have so much control that they could stop contact between a child and their father at say 15 unless even a 12 year old you would be hard pushed to stop sought after contact.

I don't doubut that your oh is fabulous father to your children but I must say ss might believe that one ex has the issue but when both have issues with your oh they might start to think espically if it's the same issue
That the
common factor in the marriage brakedowns are your oh

If your oh has some insight into why his two other marriages broke down it may be fine but if it's just they are both bitches that won't let me see my kids then I don't think that will go down well