My 14 year old foster daughter has been with us just over a year. Over the year it became clear that she had psychiatric problems and she is being treated for such, medically and with counselling. Her behaviour over the last 6 months has been extreme to say the least, 5 suicide attempts, high levels of sexual activity, lying, stealing etc. After much discussion with all social workers involved dh and I decided we needed a break. We decided it would be better if she were moved to a different placement, possibly on a respite basis but that hasn't been totally decided yet. So she was moved yesterday. The social workers were being a bit vague about her new placement any time I asked them. Yesterday morning as she was leaving they told me the family she is going to have 2 teenage sons aged 14 and 16 and a 15 year old foster son. I am horrified that they would consider this as a suitable placement. I mentioned my concern about her living with teen boys, she has been quite promiscuous lately. they just said that the foster mum has assured them the kids will be supervised at all times.
I know there's not much I can do but I'm fuming. I was upset about her leaving anyway. I miss her so much and feel guilty as I feel we have let her down. But this just makes me feel even worse. The social workers have been so great over the last year, really helpful and supportive. I feel like they've really messed up here though.