foster carers who couldn't have children yourself - do you feel different towards friends with children

[horseymum]

My friend is a foster carer and has always had teens before. now she has a child the same age as my eldest ds - it seems to have changed the relationship. i don't know what I need to do to support her. Any tips? Am I a threat to her?

In what way has it changed the relationship and how would you be a threat?

I don't know in what way it has changed the relationship - but I am a foster carer who hasn't had her 'own' children and the only way it has changed me is that I know fully understand how hard it is to raise children and that there is no such thing as a perfect parent and so probably am more understanding and no longer critical of their parenting skills.

Why on earth would you think you are a threat to her???

Why would you be a threat to her? Parenting a traumatised child can be very different to parenting a birth child and hopefully she will have received a lot of training to help her cope. Presumably if she's previously fostered teenagers then she must be quite knowledgeable and experienced?