err...i just met my sisters foster 'sister' ?!

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ok so not 'just' it was friday,at a toddler group i take my dc's to.
she was sat next to me and i was talking about my sister,as shes just about to visit our hometown,where i currently live.

i had no idea she had ever been fostered...

no-one has ever spoken of this to me.

i know she was admitted to a number of insitutions for anorexia,she was in them from about 13 until 21ish.i am 10 years younger than her so it's all quite hazy for me.

the foster 'sister' seemed to think i knew,and also was shocked my sister had a 'normal' sort of relationship with my parents.my sister also see's the foster family every time shes in the town!they seem very lovely and care about her alot.and im thankfull for them looking after her when she really needed someone,but im confused...

does anyone have any ideas why she would have been fostered?would she have requested this?or was she 'taken' from my parents?would there have been an investigation into me too?

my parents arent great,but they arent terrible either.

my sister arrives tomorow,should i say anything? or do you think it would be to raw?

That must have been really weird for you.

If your sister is in contact with the family that fostered her I am guessing it was a positive experience. So I don't see why you shouldn't talk to her about it - not unless you are upset about it.

You could also speak to your parents. Just tell them that you have met the foster sister and you are feeling confused about it.

Hoping it all goes well

I would speak to your sister about it.

I imagine she would have been fostered, as she was at risk (anorexia) and your parents weren't able to cope with it.

This must have come as a complete shock to you.

I doubt that they have been keeping this information from you as such. It must have been a very difficult time in their lives and they maybe have never found the right time to tell you.

Do you have a good relationship with your sister? If so I would talk to her about it.

i suffered anorexia as a teenager and i was placed under supervision with ss.

i was not removed but my parents were told they could remove me using wilful neglect as the cause.

as they view it as the parents not giving adequate meals etc.

it was only when my gp gave evidence that it was not down to my parents and that they had taken me to the doctor as they were concerned about it that the ss backed off.

it is classed as neglect if a child is under 17 and suffering from an eating disorder.

only if you can provide evidance will your child not be removed.
so if your parents (and im not saying they did) did not get your sister medical help from an early stage in her illness the social services would have been notified and consequently removed from their care.

please do talk to your sister regarding this. you clearly have questions you need answering but be aware that she may not want to discuss it.

fostermum thankyou that explains alot,my parents have always prefered to ignore,ignore,ignore.so i suspect they did absolutley nothing,until far to late

thankyou to everyone that answerd this thread,i may try to speak to my sister tomorow.thanks again.