how to cope when gone

[danceteacher]

we have been fostering a 11 month old baby since leaving hospital at 6 weeks old. the change in l/o is unbelieavable. from a screaming baby who was badly with drawing to a very clever bright lovable little character! l/o is being adoptated in the next few weeks and we dont know how we are going to cope. its our first baby placement and we all love him as our own. hes had no contact with birth family so has only known us. any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thinking of you today dance

I posted a while back about how I would cope in this situation and lots of posters told me to arrange something nice for myself to do on the day. I arranged to have my hair done.

Needless to say I cancelled the appointment because I was in such a state

Hope it went well danceteacher and you are feeling okish. x

hi and thank you all!
i think this has to have been the worse day of my life so far. i knew it would be hard but it felt like giving my own baby away. the worse thing of it all is i keep thinking that lo will be waiting for us to come back and that we have abandanded him. no matter how much adopters tell me hes doing great i still cant help but worry. maternal insticts i suppose.

((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))

Thinking of you and hoping today has been a bit brighter

feeling abit brighter today. i still think of lo all the time, but manage to keep the tears in so thats a good start! i have kept incontact with adopters to see how lo is settleing in. not sure though how long i should be doing this for as its always me making the contact.

Oh danceteacher I really feel for you, you are such a brave person for putting your heart on the line and making such a difference to this lo's life. And then to do it all over again with another lo I presume - I hope you are ok tonight (hug)

i am fine thanks purplehonesty. it is a hard thing to do letting them go, but i suppose i knew this when i started fostering. its just when it becomes reality it hits like a ton of bricks. i just wish our la would hurry up and find us a placement,as had a room empty for 6 months, but apparently they are thin on the ground at the mo!

Glad you're doing ok danceteacher.

I'm surprised though that it's you making all the contact with adopters, our LA frowns on this and tells us we should leave it up to the family to make all the contact.

Don't worry, the phone will ring soon