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eeek! we were recommended for approval at panel yesterday

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SquidgyBrain · 27/08/2010 13:18

so now the fun part of waiting for our first placement.

We were seeking approval for 1 child in the 0-2 age bracket of either gender on a temporary basis.

I am already finding the waiting for the phone to ring part really hard :S impatient me? never lol

Have just ordered a new cot and some other bits and bobs, we do have most of it as we have 3 kids of our own - (ds 7 dd 6 and ds almost 4)

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dolphin13 · 27/08/2010 14:36

Well done, hope you don't have to wait to long.

We got our first placement day after panel.

SquidgyBrain · 27/08/2010 14:41

the next day!!!! If that happened I would have a slight problem getting a new mattress for the cot but other than that we are pretty much good to go!

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sumum · 27/08/2010 16:27

Congratulations, well done and good luck.

I had a couple of weeks wait but that was eons ago. I have got a newborn at the moment and she is soo snuggley(but hard work!).

Pwsimerimew · 27/08/2010 20:22

Congrats! We're still waiting for a placement! The days after the panel was a real anti-climax for me.
Up to now, we've had four phonecalls regarding placements, but as yet none have come through.
Ah well, they now where we are if they need us!

Pwsimerimew · 27/08/2010 20:23

know not now, oops Blush

threeandcounting · 27/08/2010 20:23

Congratulations!!!!

We are halfway through the process (getting more and more nervous/exited as time is going on!) We are also applying one child temp 0-2.

Can i ask you what it was like going to panel-is it as scary as i am making it out to be in my head.....?!

I also have a ds 8, dd 6 and ds 3, so i would love to know how you get on!!

Imisssleeping · 27/08/2010 20:58

Oooh exciting.

I'm halfway through the process and if all goes well should go before the panel in Dec.
I've said I'd prefer between the ages of 4 and 8 years as I don't think I could cope with a newborn and sleepless nights at the moment.

When you say temporary do you mean short term or respite?

Please let us know how you get on

eatyourveg · 27/08/2010 21:19

Congratulations. I really admire what you are doing. Good luck

EarthMotherImNot · 28/08/2010 06:59

Well doneGrin
We too got our first placement the day after we were approved and I well remember the excitement, as well as the terror, when he arrived, all 8 months old of him.

It was the moments after the social workers left and we looked at him sitting on the floor seconds before he opened his mouth and screamed like a banshee at usShock

He did eventually calm down for us and he remains, 23 years later, a special memory for us all.

May I wish you the very best of luck and a very short wait til the phone call comesSmile

p99gmb · 28/08/2010 11:59

Well done you!!

We are going to panel this Tuesday - so already got my heart in my mouth... so nervous.

We've been told that they won't do a placement until its 'officially' been confirmed in writing - about a week or so..? Has anyone else been told that - or is that just the 'official' line...?

We're hoping to be approved for 2 children aged 0-6 in the first instance - although all being well, we'll increase the age as we become more confident with the system (and ourselves!!).

Keep us posted - it'll be good to be newbies together...

:) :) :) :)

Imisssleeping · 28/08/2010 17:47

Yes the fostering section needs a bit of new blood, it can be very quiet on here.

Good luck for Tuesday p99.

angel31dust · 28/08/2010 19:26

Congrats xx

SquidgyBrain · 28/08/2010 22:36

Thanks ladies ☺

Pwsimerimew ? I know what you mean, have been rushing about trying to get as organized as I can be but yes very much an anti-climax. Hoping that you get a placement soon

Threeandcounting ? Hoping that your assessment goes smoothly ☺ Panel was ok. Just remember that your SW wouldn?t put you forwards for panel if they didn?t think you would be approved, and that the Panel actually are on your side. We had 8 people on the panel the chair the minute taker and an observer, so it was pretty intimidating when we went in, but they were all lovely

Imussleeping ? Hoping your assessment goes smoothly too ? December will be here before we know it. Temporary is purely just not permanent, but not respite. So it is a case that the child will always leave our care but that can be a short period of time or can be as long as a piece of string so I am told!!

EarthMotherImNot ? I would like to thank you for being so honest in your posts on here ? it has given me a real in-site into what fostering babies is like ☺

P99gmb ? Good luck for Tuesday! I was under the same impression that we wouldn?t have any child placed with us until we had been officially approved, but apparently not, our SW told us that we are now able to have children placed with us. Being newbies together sounds like a fab idea :)

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dolphin13 · 29/08/2010 15:02

P99 Good luck for Tuesday.

NanaNina · 30/08/2010 00:12

SBrain - I have 30 years experience as a social worker in fostering and adoption - have recently retired, which is why I am still up at midnight!

I think the fact that your approval is for 0-2 you may have a longer wait than say for a sibling group of 2 middle years aged children, but you never can tell. It's just one of those things, because we have never been able to find a way of knowing what age and gender of child/ren are going to need short term placements. Mind it is is generally known that a lot of children are older and are in sibling groups or have particular behaviour problems and clearly none of these children would be suitable for you. Don't get dispondent if you have to wait. It's sometimes a good idea to be approved for respite as well, which means that you could care for a child already fostered but the carers need a break or have family problems (carers have their own problems too) and having respite care for a child can often help. Again though this is more likely to be for older children.

Dependent on the l.a. for whom you are carers, sometimes when soc workers are desparate to place a child, carers will be asked to accept a placement out of their age range (or sometimes can be overloaded or given very difficult children) so you need to be clear if this happens how you will react. Of course soc workers often don;t know the extent of the child's behaviour problems and this does vary enormously and how the child is handled is so very important, but I'm sure you learned all that on your training course. Mind it's never the same in theory as in practice!

Sorry can't remember who mentioned having to wait for a letter from SSD before a placement can be made. This is because the Fostering Panel can only recommend approval and the Childrens Service Manager (or someone else higher up the chain) actually has to agree (this is really a rubber stampingjob - once the fostring panel have agreed on your approval it is extremely unlikely that this would be changed - in fact I have never known it happen. This does take a week or so for all the fostering papers to be sent to the Snr Officer and for him/her to agree on the approval.

Someone asked about the fostering panel. They differ according to different l.a.s and there will always be around 10 people in the room which can be very daunting, but there has to be representation from social services, education, health, local councillors etc, a minute taker and a panel advisor etc. Your own social worker will sit with you and chip in if necessary. The panel should always treat applicants with respet and they are NOT trying to trip you up, There are no trick questions. It is really a matter of the panel members discussing with you some of the isssues in your Form F. Sometimes they might feel that the soc worker hasn't sufficiently explained a point or mised something out and they might ask you abit more about this.

Most applicants are surprised that it was nothing like what they were expecting and actually enjoyed the experience. They are also aware that people can get nervous and nake allowances and should be able to put you at your ease. They often begin by asking you how you found the training course and whether there were any parts you found more interesting or were surprised about. Be honest about everything because panels willunderstand that you will still have some uncertainty about fostering and this is only natural. In fact I orry far more about people who say "oh we know we can cope with anything and there is nothing we are worried about" because this isn't realistic.

Anyway good luck to you all. As you will all know there is a huge shortage of foster carers throughout the country and you are much needed.

SquidgyBrain · 31/08/2010 08:13

NanaNina,

Thanks for posting :) We didn't seek approval for respite as well as I know there is no way I could cope with my own 3 children, a child on short term placement and another on respite, especially if this happened when my husband was working away from home!

Our link worker knows very well that we will be flexible if we have a child on placement that we won't ask for them to find another placement if the childs 3rd birthday occurs but we will not take on a child that is older than 2. We have to put our own kids needs first and the SW agrees

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NanaNina · 31/08/2010 13:08

HI SB - glad you got approved. Incidentally I wasn't suggesting you took a child for respite and a short term placement. I meant either or as taking a child on respite (say for a couple of weekends a month) or something similar is a good lead in to fostering. You are certainly going to have your hands full and I'm glad to hear that you are thinking of your own children as well as the fostered child, because if it doesn't work for them it won't work for the fostered child.

Anyway good luck for the future

SquidgyBrain · 31/08/2010 21:43

NanaNina, from what our SW has said if we did agree to respite, our allowance would be higher but it would mean that we would have to accept respite along side any short term placements that we have - I can see us doing this when our own brood have gotten a bit older :)

Our own kids are our top priority, there is no point in improving another child's life at the detriment of our own little ones.

The social worker called today and left a very short message saying she would try our mobile number and didn't and of course it was out of hours before I got the message....argh!!

It has been really helpful reading your posts and seeing things from the other side of the fence :)

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