DH has always wanted to be in the forces, but his dad didn't want him to then we got married, had a family etc. and it never came up, it was always discounted by as both. I found out a little more about it and talked to DH who was really happy to have it as an 'option' now - well, more than an option because come hell or high water we will get there.
What he wants to do (ideally, he will do anything if it came to it) requires obviously the fitness and 5 GCSEs. THe problem is DH has never had any sort of discipline in anything really - he left school at 16 with a few Gs, never did anything much (by that I mean he did always work but just jobs, no career) as that was normal for his family really. I on the other hand , despite being an exhausted mum of 2 boys and it all going to pot abit, have had that in my life. DH is wonderful - works so hard but needs a size 5 boot up his backside alot because he just cannot seem to get into that frame of mind. He is far from lazy, just never had organisation. Now, part of me thinks I should let him sink or swim himself but on the other hand, once he gets that into his life I am so sure he will run with it. I have been The Boss for him (I did all his training schedule , been helping him revise for his exams, helping him with his college work, sorting out his diet for him) but have kind of stopped and it's all fallen apart abit. I should note he up to last week was working 60 + hours a week, up at 4.30 - 5 every day, 3 nights he has college after work and then has to deal with homelife - 2 DSs, another on the way with possible problems and me with depression. So, in a nutshell, do you think it's OK to carry him for a while because I know he has such potential but just has never had the discipline instilled in him. Isn't that abit what the initial training is about anyway, just working with "potential to be" types? Or do I think if he wants it this badly he should boot himself up the backside and learn it himself?
Sorry it's long and waffly , been on my mind alot