Fed Up!!!!

[alibaabaa]

A bit of whinge really!
have a 2.5 YO DD and 26 wks pg. DP in the RAF, and due to the nature of his current job, he is away constantly. I get to see him for 2 wks in 6/7, and it has been like that for nearly a year. when i do get to see him, he is away for 2 - 3 days of the week.
I have a fabulously supportive mum and dad, who let me come and stay with them when he is away - but am on a real downer at the mo.
pregnancy not going great - with niggles and illnesses surrounding it!
I know the nature of the forces and the demands they place on the fmaily life, but finding it very difficult and lonely at the mo.
I feel so sorry for DD, as she doesn't deserve to see 'mammy' down in the dumps, but I just feel a bit powerless!
Just want some positive comments please, to stop me feeling sorry for myself!

Thanks in advance

Aahh bless you, i know its not the same but my DH works abroad most weeks for large chunks of time. Im also 28 wks prgenant and have a 1 yo DD, and work full time. I feel down at times and as if life is 'unfair'.
Every week i try and plan a couple of things to do to cheer myself up. eg, going swimming, a little shopping trip- if only to Tesco, and buying some new makeup, or a face pack or hair colour! also maybe arranging to see a friend one evening for a nice meal (cook at home) and a glass of wine?
Are you living on a RAf base? What about a hobby? sound silly but card-making, kknitting,cake decorating(?!) can pass time in the evenings when DD in bed? also this can boost your confidence and self esteem!
hope those little ideas are a bit of help, i do understand how you feel, and you are entitled to feel sorry for yourself!!
xxx

Thanks mieowcat - I think I am just dwelling as been snowed in. Where DP works, there are only a handful of RAF personnel there, and there is no kind of network going on. It is in the highlands, so butt-end of nowhere!
Thanks for your ideas, need to get some motivation and put them into action. I hope your pregnancy is going well.
X

Hi there alibaabaa - sorry you're feeling fed up. Can't say I blame you, pregnancy's not exactly fun in my experience and I can imagine if you're not 100%, you've a toddler to keep track of and DP's away a lot you must be tired and pissed off. Sympathy coming your way!

I'm also posting because - deep breath! - I think we've met once in RL. I haven't seen you since the thread that made me put two and two together (I don't think you came back to it), but if someone actually knows you it compromises anonymity, so it's only right that I tell you, if that makes sense. You probably won't even remember me (we met at toddlers and briefly discussed parental augmentation of children's artwork, and I seem to remember your PILs aren't a bundle of fun!).

Anyway, nothing a namechange wouldn't sort out if you thought it necessary - and I do hope you feel better soon. I'm not sure how much time you actually spend here (as in, where we live!) as I haven't seen you around but if you fancy some tea and cake sometime to cheer you up (or just want to identify me!) then let me know on here and we can meet up.

I really feel for you hunny, an I understand how you must be feeling! my DH has been at home for only 8 weeks since our DS was born nine months ago!
I agree that little tasks or hobbies in the evening are a great help. When DS goes to bed at 7it can be very lonely.
I hve actually started to write a pregnancy book!!!!!!! I am a nurse, so i thought i'd combine my medical knowledge with my pregnancy experiences and try and write a helpful guide!!
I don't know how seriously it would be taken by any publishers but its really given me focus and takes up my free time!!

I can't imagine how I'd cope being Pregnant as well. You're doing great.
Its nice sometimes just to know there are others who understand.
We never realised when we married ino the forces how much of a struggle it'd be sometimes! so you're more than entitled to a good moan whenevr you fancy!!!
M x x

Thanks so much.
Mercy2, that sounds fab, I think that you can go from being an individual, to mum, and I sometimes actually miss sorting out finances (my previous job). I even get excited in an evening if i have some personal filing to do - very sad!!! I hope your book is going well. Sounds great to actually be written by someone who has experienced motherhood as well.
Mintchapstick - thanks for letting me know - thank god i wasn't admitting to having a racey affair, and you knew DP - crap!!!!!
I still haven't got the calendars - I had forgotten all about them - and yes, PIL complete pain!!! I feel silly for sounding so pityful, and no disrespect at all to GOS. that sounds fab to come round for cake (a pregnant woman never says no to that offer!)
People are friendly where we live, I think it is difficult that I come and go so much.
I am coming back up in a couple of weeks, depending on whether DPs' bosses could possibly not send him away for a couple of weeks.
thanks everyone for support, MNer never fail.
XXX

Not sure about the calendars so maybe I'm not who you think. And I certainly don't think you sound pitiful, or disrespectful. I can't really imagine how tough it must be for you guys whose partners are away a lot. And it's pretty isolated here, in a lot of ways.

Anyway, cake it is when you're next up. I was going to say that I craved it while I was pregnant but if I'm honest it's not restricted to pregnancy