I have posted about this woman before, in Dec when she left her kids with me from 7 am to 7 pm, as she was going to the PX , and when I asked her to pick me up a couple of bits was sniffy about it. 2 weeks later she left her 2 yo with me all morning (I find it hard to say no), who screamed in real distress for 20 mins when I had to change her nappy as she doesn't know me very well.She had diarrhoea and when I mentioned it she said 'oh yes, we knew about that' (I have a baby FFS - you thought it would have crossed her mind I wouldn't want the baby to catch anything) I spoke to her Dh about it later and said I wasn't willing to do it again unless her children got to know me better as it was unfair on them. anyway, fast forward to today when she came round to ask if I was doing anything this afternoon - I naively thought she may be inviting us around for a play date - when I said no, we were free, she offloaded the 2 younger ones on me for 3 hours. I have 3 of my own, all under 5 and really didn't want to have them all around - and cook tea for them all especially as it is never reciprocated. Anyway, she left them with me today, and the 2 yo again went barmy when I had to change a pooey nappy, and as I was doing so discovered she had ringworm on her groin area that she was scratching. when I told the mother this, she said 'oh yes, we'll take her to the doctor soon' - really hope those scratchy hands didn't pass it on to my 3 - and to take the biscuit, she said 'I have to do this run once a fortnight' - please please please let her not think she can do this everytime.
Any tips on refusing gracefully? You know how hard it is to make waves on a patch