What's a good length of time for your DH/DP to be away?

[frannikin]

Personally I think I prefer it when he buggers off for a 3 month stint. These fortnight-to-a-month jollies are getting on my nerves because I just about settle into not having him around and then he's back again but I know he's going away soon so we can't really settle into a vaguely normal routine.

So do you prefer little and often or one big chuck that's over with for a while?

Well in the middle of a load of short deployments i wish it was a big deployment, but during a big deployment, i wish it was a short one. Can't win

We're also going through lots of short deployments, haven't been through a long one since we had our dd's but have that to endure look forward to next year.

I am getting fed up of the coming and going so maybe the big one will be preferable.

Worked out that out of the 15 months, he's on his ship, he'll be away for 12 months.

DH is with Royal Sigs Display team, and from end of January till end of October every year, he is away 2/3 weeks at a time with 2/3 days at home in between.

It is a PITA, much preferred it when they are away on a 3/6 month deployment than this.

Only saving grace, is when he gets back from South Africa in February, that is his last time, he goes onto Resettlement, and 'Gardening@ leave then.

Def longer one rather than lots of short ones. DH when on call for 6 months instead of a 3 monthdeployment when I was due with DS, it was a nightmare.

He would walk through the door and say I've come home to pack, leaving in an hour don't know when I'll be back. It was pants, couldn't plan anything, couldn't go anywhere, children didn't know if daddy would be at home when they got home.

Very unstable time for us. If he had just gone away for 3 months we would have known where we stood and got on with life.