AIBU - a Forces special

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DH has been deployed for almost 6 months and is due home next week. The kids and I are collecting him from the airport.

Today on the phone he casually says "Oh I suggested to my parents that because they live so near the airport, they should come and meet me too".

AIBU in thinking that it would have been nice for the children and me to see him on our own for a bit? I would happily have driven to his parents afterwards (I get along fine with them by the way). I was a bit irritated that he's already said this to them without mentioning it to me first. He knows I am not thrilled about it and was very apologetic on the phone, but it's done now.

Am I being grumpy and unreasonable?

No I would feel the same as you.

My hubby is still on tour and would go mad if anyone even thought of coming within a few days of hm getting back..(very unlikely as we are moving within a few days of him getting back!!) I had to put my foot down as his parents wanted to come over for ranr.

Good luck and ebnjoy, but you are NOT being unreasonable.

If his parents are reasonable could your dh not say.. well actually mam, dad I have changed my mind i would like to spean a bit of time with mehh and the children, first.. but we will pop in and see you on the way home..

If this is ok with you that is. I think the meeting at the airport is great I did it for hubbys r and r without the children.. I told them he was coming hom ethe next day and I was going out with friends for the afternoon. It was great just having that hour to talk about thiing s on our own qhilst driving home

I might have a word with his mum actually, she was an Army wife herself. That's a good idea, thanks.

you are welcome hun... the other thing you could do is tell the children he is coming home the next day, leave them with your inlaws whilst you pick dh up tell them you are going shopping os something.. then you get to see your hubby on your own for however long, and your in laws get to see the childrens reactions when they see there father.

My neighbours cried, when they heard my children scream when they seen dh. I tild my kids the week before that the flight had been changed... as I decided to surprise them last minute.. Just an idea.. This way you are involving your in laws in a big way really.. as well..

Great idea 2+1. That way they'll still feel a bit part of it, but you get the important part. And if the flight is delayed etc, you're not going to have grumpy kids on your hands.

although - one of the fantastic things about working at that well known airhead, is having to go through boxes of tissues every day as kids greet mummy or daddy after deployment...

hope your reunion is everything you could wish for.

(laura - don't you mean 'when' the flight is delayed lol?)

I think 2+1's idea is lovely.
I don't think yabu at all, but at the same time he is their son. If MIL is an Army wife too she will know what you are doing letting her be there and should be very grateful.
I think I would be peeved, tell dh he owed me one and go along with it tbh. You will feel such a good person .

I totally agree that leaving the children with your MIL is a good idea.

In fact, I took it a step further when my DH came home from Iraq for R & R. He was arriving in the very early hours so we went straight to a hotel for a proper reunion and late breakfast before I brought him home to the DC. Seemed to work well for everyone!

Hope it goes well for you, whatever your plans.