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Feeling lonely advice

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Pagetta · 17/09/2023 22:03

Im sure im not the only one who struggles with loneliness but the the last few months it has seemed to get worse.
Hubby is now long term posted three hours away. We dont want to live there, we love where we live and are very settled and he is home around 50% of weekends.
Pre-covid i was part of a running club at the local camp and had a sitter every week for it which was fab. I also had a very close relationship with my mum (although she lives 2 hrs away) and i have a very close friendship group with my college friends (mostly whatsapp due to distance!) and good friends at work.

However my mum is getting older and frail - relationship is still good but very different. My friendship group all have some heavy stuff going on so the focus is on that at the minute. And everyone now works from home at work, so no work chitchat and even when i go in thr office its dead - and due to childcare i cant socialise outside work hours - its not just babysitting costs its the millions of clubs my kids do (7 and 11) and need ferrying to.

I would love to take up a hobby but just dont know when id do it due to the kids /clubs etc.

I feel like all my avenues for being part of a group or club or making close friendships are closed. I get on well with school mums and see them for the odd night out but not regularly - everyones too busy with their own stuff!

I go to a gym but struggle to make friends there as im in and out in my lunch hour with no time for chitchat.

Also no longer have ties with local camp and too far away for support from his new base.

Sorry - its a long moan but feeling bit sad and just wondered how you managr to committ to hobbies or groups or any advice on the lonliness.
Thanks

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RAFOfficer · 17/09/2023 22:14

You should still be able to use welfare facilities, clubs etc at the nearby camp even if he’s not working there OP! Can you get back to that running club, or join the military wives’ choir if they have one? (You don’t have to be any good at singing, they usually have cake, and some of them you can take the kids with you…)

Pagetta · 17/09/2023 22:18

Id love to get back to it but it stopped during covid and a lot of the girls moved away so i dont really know many people there now :-( also not sure how to fit it in around allll the clubs my kids do! Will maybe put feelers out to see if could make it work.....

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