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Original poster

week today and dh goes to Afghan..will be 12 months to the day he got back

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twoplusone · 03/02/2008 19:06

It is starting to hit home now that he is going the first lot from here left yesterday.. Due back August..

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kerryk · 03/02/2008 19:16

this will be later on in the year.

afraid i dont have anything to say that will make you feel better but you know that you will get through it fine (one way or another!!!)

has he been given his rnr dates yet, i always try and get dh to take his about 4 1/2 months in so that he only has a few weeks to do nce he goes back.

VanillaPumpkin · 03/02/2008 19:17

Crap for you and the children...and your DH for that matter.
Sooner he goes the sooner he is back though. Chin up. You have been here before and got through it. You will again. It is difficult along the way though .

SammyC · 03/02/2008 19:54

I think this period just before they go is the hardest as you feel like you want to make the most of every day but have so many emotions going on! Have you made many plans to keep you and the kids busy? This has helped the time pass for me x

lapinindetention · 03/02/2008 19:57

Sucks, doesn't it... mine's off soon as well

kerryk · 03/02/2008 20:07

of course i meant "this will be me"

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twoplusone · 03/02/2008 20:23

I know I will be fine.. have planned to do the normal things ith the kids and add a few treat days out, and more swimming. As for rnr not sure when yet.
I think as Sammy saaid this is the worst bit when you are waiting for them to go.. as I am ion here now he is packing his burgen.

The hardest part fo me will be the babies first birthday..in july.. (even though it will mean not long till he comes home ) Which is silly really as he wont even know daddy isnt there or thatt it is his birthday.. My middle child will be 4 in June, he will miss his dad as he is a daddies boy.. but I know I can do fun things for his birthday.. sounds daft really me being more upset about dh missing ds2bday!!!

I have told him to get the transport to pick him up next week as it is a 20min drive and dont fancy driving back with the three children as I know that if i do cry it will be then. Feel guilty but feel it is safer..

Atleast i know people here this year last time he went out we had only been in germany for 2.5weeks, when he went..(where in Cyprus before) and had just found out the I was pg with ds2..
TBH I just hopping my period comes this month..(due tommorrow, as we forgot to use protection well got to carried away..and with the other three I have fell really quickly..between 3-6weeks) Not that it would be a problem other than tiredness, looking after three kids and being pg!! Worked out i would be 32weeks about when he got back!! Did a test sat it was neg.. but also early to test really but felt funny for the last week really nauseus (sp) but this could be nerves!! andmy boobs hurt even when the baby pushed against them the other day Could be in my head though!!.it felt like someone had but them in a vice..

Sorry to goon maybe should be posting tese parts in another section.. But i found a patch of skin on my back that has changed colour the other day as i was getting in the shower.. asked dh if he had noticed it before, he said no, and neither have I . Going to see the doctors tommorrow, hopefully they will have an appointment, am In a little panic over it really,, hopefully nothing..

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kerryk · 03/02/2008 20:30

there is usually a baby boom when all the men in our lot come back, you are jumping the que(sp??) a bit

if you were pregnant would you get support from friends/family where you are? at least it would give you one more thing to focus on.

i always find the last week the worst, me and dh have had some cracking arguments then because emotions are running so high.

the other thing i hate is when you have said goodbye and he has left you in floods of tears then half a hour later he is back saying the flight is delayed. my dh knows now just to stay in camp if this happens and not to bother telling me.

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twoplusone · 03/02/2008 20:50

If i am pg i will be fine,..I have done all three og by myself.. but to be honest i think af will be with me tommorrw.. However dh was usre on friday that we would be ok, until he said.. " you only ever fall pg if i am going aw.." then stopped and said "oh Shit" lol..

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lapinindetention · 03/02/2008 23:14

twoplusone, no need to apologise, you can post whatever you like here . But for health issues etc, it might be an idea to post a thread in that topic, because you'll get advice from the doctors etc who don't generally come on this board.

Oh joy, I have spent the evening sewing on badges to his desert kit!

VanillaPumpkin · 04/02/2008 10:54

Lapin, what a good wifey you are .
Twoplusone - It sounds like you will be kept busy at least.
I agree with the others that this last week is the worst. I think I have posted before that waiting for DH to go was almost worse than when he actually went. At least I could deal with it then.
DD1 was a post det baby .
Keep us posted and make sure you get to the docs as best to be on the safe side.
Take care.

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twoplusone · 04/02/2008 18:53

still no af today. Did a test it was - . ut thinking back I think fro dec af to jans was 30days..not 28..so that should be wednwesday for me. weird as I have always been spot on 28days when not on any contraceptives. I suppose body still sorting itself out from ds2. If nothin wed then will test again. (Dont know which waiting is worst!!lol)
Didnt make an appointment about my back will sort that out in the week. Watched dd play bench ball today, then had a nap as was really tired, wish I hadnt as I have felt really blurgh since. Tommorrow dd has got an orthodontist appointment about getting a brase fitted.

Lapin you are a good wife.. I only wash kit other than that I dont touch it. It all goes to the tailors to get things sewn on.

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lapinindetention · 04/02/2008 18:55

Not really, I just quite like sewing . He has to wash his own kit! He's looking forward to DS being old enough to bull his boots (I think he did his dad's). Me, I'd like DS to do the hoovering

Scootergrrrl · 04/02/2008 18:58

DH won't let me anywhere near his kit. I think it was the time I ironed tramlines into his combats that did it...
If you need to escape from camp twoplusone (and hopefully not twoplusoneandanother ) just shout and come on over. I'll make a chocolate cake...

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twoplusone · 04/02/2008 19:08

your on scootergrrrl.. Thanks.

LOL lapin..

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kerryk · 04/02/2008 21:01

i never used to be allowed to touch dh's kit but after the time he put detol in my machine to wash his stuff from exercise (yes really) he has been banned from the washing machine so i have to wash it now.

took bloody weeks for the smell to go.

littlelapin · 04/02/2008 22:14

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twoplusone · 08/02/2008 09:20

AF came this morning..

DH is getting picked up tommorrow night at midnight for his flight.

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VanillaPumpkin · 08/02/2008 12:26

Phew and .

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