Guilt! Anyone decide to settle the family and stop moving them every couple years?

[SammyC]

I know its the best option but dh now back after long tour and i'm feeling guilty as not living on the "patch"! We live 3 hours drive away from the camp.Anyone else feel the same? or wish they had bought a house and settled in one place?

In approximately 18 months time the Dses and I will move back to our house in the Borders, whilst DH finishes his last year here. I always said I wanted to settle in one place and in Scotland before DS1 started secondary school.

We move every two years at the moment, but like saltire, will settle somewhere once DD starts secondary school - unless she demands to go to boarding school!
Don't feel guilty - we put up with plenty without beating yourself up about decisions you made for all the right reasons.

Thanks. its hard when he is on so called "down time" and around! but when he is away its the best option being near family and having some support, its been to many years with little or no support! I am sure you all know that feeling!

We are about to do this. When we get home from Cyprus (this summer) we are hoping to settle in Wiltshire while DH new post will be in Buckinghamshire. DD is only in FS2 but we've decided we've had enough of moving every 2 years.

Over the last 14 yrs I did MQ for 9 yrs own home for 4ys and now back in MQ. We still have our own home rented out and will go back there at the end of our time here. I have found readjusting to MQ quite hard and really miss my own base and friends. I found mixing with hb colleagues rather different once we had our own home. there was less popping round for a beer, but then I'd made friends in our village and to be honest I prefer this. Hb loved own home and being able to escape camp at the end of the day. Now DD is in school we see MQ as a temporary thing to bear. (Well the sun does compensate a bit!!) I agree with the fact that with MQ you have to rely on your own support far more. Even in my own home I wasn't near family, but had loads of friends who helped me out when times were tough. I feel less likely to ask people in MQ but don;t know why exactly!!
Moving after 4.5 yrs was a bit of a reality check and made us both swear that we wouldn't go into MQ indefinitely!

Hello, Im new to mumsnet. Dh is Navy. We live in MQ in Bedfordshire.

McCreamy, where in Bucks is your Dh new post. We were posted there last year. To the Language school in Beaconsfield. Had MQ and everything sorted but 2 weeks before we were due to move they changes DH post so we could stay where we were. Ds was only 3 weeks old so that mus much better. The moving around is a big problem for me. Dh and i were already together when he signed up, he's been in Navy almost 4 years. We agreed when he signed up that we didnt want to live apart and that i would follow where ever he was posted. Im finding it very hard to be away from family and friends especially as ds is 6 months old and there's no support around us to give us a break etc.

Did it years ago in Wiltshire - never ever hanker after Patch life. Found that I liked being on my in my own house waiting for dh to come back from ops rather being on my own in a army house