has anybody's oh come home from afghanistan that was in the infantry ........

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and become a different person ????

im very worried about my little brother he has been home two months now and befroe he came home several lads in his unit were killed and seriously injured he had to ocme home de to his fiance having a hysterectomy and had no decompression

he says he's not sleeping he's very sulky i know it must be incredibly hard for him and his oh is sffering ovarian cancer she's 28 he's 24 and is waiting for her health to be right before they cn perform the surgery so its a waiting game

my mum is so concerned she has contacted his welfare officer and he has been out to her and arranged he go to see the medics . ifeel it may be the lack of routine in his life at the moment and possibly guilt he is not ot there
or he's just plain traumitised

tia

just looking for experience n this or advice really
xxxx

Poor thing - he's really been hit by everything!

I hope that he gets the support he needs from the services - and also from healthcare people.

Can't imagine what these boys (and their families) go through.

Hi
Sorry to hear about your brother. I have only had to experience very short periods of HB is places like these but I'm sure others will help. I did have a hysterectomy following the birth of my first child due to medical negligence and even now after 4 and half years it still affects HB and myself. Time does heal some of the wounds but not all. Am thinking of you lots

thanx girls

any forces girls with experiencce????

dressed...my dh was in Afghasnistan from January to May...he is a regular Infantry sgt, but was over there with a TA regiment....!
He doesn't tend to talk much about his exepriences in general, and of course being older and more experienced, well, he's been around and possibly goes mentally a bit better prepared.
However, I do know he found it difficult out there, everything about it, so, I think it must have been a lot to talke in, so, I suppose it's only natural that your little Brother is having a hard time, which obviously isn't any easier due to his personal circumstances.
They only ever tend to talkbetween themselfs, the lads....so...maybe your Brother has got a mate that knows what it's like...maybe that would help him, sort of a bit of a debriefing piss up, or somehting like that...

thank yo 3 and no gore

i hope he can get thru this im so worried about him is there any one you know of who i can put my mum onto other than the welfare officer

You could try SSAFA They might be able to give your Mum some ideas on how she could help your brother. Apparently they are very good. DH is not Infantry so I'm not a lot of help there. But your brother is young and doesn't sound that unusual for someone returning from what sounds like a fairly traumatic tour

dresseed, I will ask dh...he will know...always been a bit rubbish about these things...never really got much involved in Army life as such...despite being married to dh for 12 years now, lol...

dressed I really feel for the whole family. Although my DH hasn't been out there, I mind a DC whose father has just got back from Iraq, suffering from PTSD. This sounds very much like your brother. To have to cope with everything he experienced out there and to come back to his fiancee with lots of illnes problems must be traumatic.
There is a whole host of feelings like guilt at coming home when his friends didn't make it, guilt for the lifestyle here compared to civilians in Afghanistan. He may not be religious but the unit Padre could also help him to talk through his experiences, or a psychiatric nurse. The mental health teams in military units are used to daeling with PTSD and will sometimes have also had first hand experience themselves. Likewise, many Padres also spend time out in Afghanistan and Iraq or have served in Bosnia, Kosovo etc. He will only talk to family when he feels ready, probably because he doesn't want his family to be tainted with the horrors or visions of what he saw and experienced and also doesn't want to bring those traumas into his home.