ALONE IN GERMANY - WOULD LIKE TO CHAT

[BitTiredNow]

DH in Iraq again - second tour this year - away for 7 months this time. Have DS1 - 4, DS2 - 2 and a half and DD1 - 6 months. Cannot stand the patch mentality of 'if you've got a headache, I've had 3 brain tumours'. Can anyone empathise?

Bad day today with the children - all complete pains, and ended up with me sitting on their bedroom floor bursting into tears - DS1 came and gave me a big hug, and asked why I was sad, when I tried to explain how hard it was for me to do the mummy and the daddy jobs he said 'but you don't clear out the drains'. When I said about the clearing up and bathing and cooking and baby etc etc, he gave me a big kiss and said (I am crying now as I write this) 'Mummy if they are not dangerous jobs, tell me and I'll do them for you', and after I got downstairs from cleaning up he said 'Mummy, can I give you a hand with anything?' I am so scared I am putting an old head on young shoulders.

Hi BTN just thought I would come and keep you company. My DH is on his CLM course for 3 wks. I can empathize with that mentality, its because lots of people have nothing better to do than bitch.

What a gorgeous boy you have and obviously a credit to the wonderful job you are doing of raising him and his siblings.

Bloody hell! My DH has only been gone for 10 days ( and managed to get back at the weekend) and I am already falling behind with jobs. Although I CM its not much different in numbers to your children. Don't feel guilty about DS doing a few small jobs, it will give him a sense of pride and he will feel better trying to make you feel better IYSWIM

Hi everyone, not managed to type much today as baby is sick, but very encouraged by your support - thank you. she is screaming nowo must go, but thamk you all

Hi LL, am feeling a lot better now - managed to get a few jobs done today, which makes me feel I am coping a bit, although I saw a mother in the NAAFI today whingeing about her husband being away and she has a nanny, and her mother living with her for the whole tour, so I had to bite my lip - but at least I was annoyed rather than upset - that's a good sign, right?!!!!!

That's a sign of fortitude if ever I heard it! Some women, eh ...

xx

My mother threw a dicky fit the day after dh deployed and refused to come back with me on the ferry to help (am still v proud I did it on my own), but I have found it easier without her, as I don't have to think about cooking for anyone else and i can have crisps for tea in my pjs at 7 pm watching crap TV if I want (you know what I mean)

ooh, you are SHARP!!!!!!! Yup, another whinge, sorry . Where are you, LL?

ooh, I LIKE navy wives - the ones I have met don't seem to have any airs and graces - even if its a generalisation, it's a nice one!! I've done Shriv - why is he going away from there? Its usaully a guaranteed home every day at 6 place. if you want to know the good quarters etc, I can help.

I've never met a navy wife i haven't liked, you lovely bunch, you. Some wives in the army though.... take today, new next door neighbour moved in, 2 children same age as my oldest and youngest, asked her over for tea the first day trying to be helpful, you know what it's like when the kitchen is in boxes, she said yes, but at 6 pm, I eventually went round to see if she was coming, and she said 'no, I've changed my mind, the children are tired' and shut the door..... (no kidding). SO hard not to want to shout 'you rude **&&&!!!@@ tyhrough the letter box'....

yup, nice to chat