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Redemptionsong1 · 29/04/2020 12:35

Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice or if anyone has been through this. So I have a partner who is the father to my 3 year old child. Before I met my partner I was seeing some other fella just for a few months, I knew him from being a friend of my family, anyway when my brother heard about it he wasn't happy so we put a stop to it. Not long after I met my current partner I fell pregnant straight away, he is a good person and treats me well but for the past year I've been thinking about the other man every day, I just want to be with him but feel bad to leave my partner because he hasn't done anything wrong and I don't know if we will even be able to be together bcs of what happened before with my brother but I just don't want anyone else and love this other man, I feel like I'm going mad in the head thinking about someone who I can't be with and who probably will be afraid to be with me because of what happened before or maybe isn't interested in me anymore! Has anyone else had this happen to them before or am I just mad in the head 🙈 I would never cheat on my partner or start talking to this other man until I finished with my partner, just looking for some advice on what to do or how to snap myself out of thinking like this, I know the grass isn't always greener but I just feel I will be happier with this other man. Thanks if anyone has any advice 😊

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Dragonfree · 02/06/2020 15:43

I'd suggest talking to your partner. Maybe even therapy together.

You left the other man because your brother didn't approve, so I'd assume you didn't feel that strongly at the time.

Regret is a waste of time, effort and energy.

I'd also suggest you get this moved to the relationship boards rather than Force's sweethearts. I can't see any military connection in your thread.

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