Leaving the forces

[LosingMarbles]

My husband has been in the RAF since he was 18. We got married when we were 20 after a whirlwind romance. ( we are the same age ) now at 55 he is coming out. He has 4 months left to do.
I'm dreading it. Not because I don't want him to be at home each day, but because I've never known any different all our married life.
I'm dreading living on civvy street and we have agreed that we will live in Germany ( my homeland ) rather than the UK, which will go a long way in settling me. Obviously we have spent a large chunk of his career in Germany, so he is happy to return.
He has been offered the chance to work in the middle east and I'm hoping he will take it. I will be accompanying him if he does.
Our kids are adults and living away from home, so no problems there.
How can I make the adjustments easier for myself? My husband doesn't want to leave the forces either, it has been his life, but he accepts that it is to happen.
How did others cope? Help.

Transition is really difficult both for those serving and for spouses. Has he been to any resettlement stuff with the CTP? The Officers’ Association can also help with this I think.

Firstly, thank you for both yours and your DH’s service!
Be prepared for some sort of depression or low moods when he lives in civvy street to begin with. It took my DP 3 years to feel settled. It doesn’t happen all the time but my DP has PTSD so this massively triggered when he left as he wasn’t around people who understood what he’d seen and experienced (we were together then). What helps DP is a routine, in the services they are so used to things being done a certain way and at certain times. (On the plus side he still enjoys ironing!) It has taken a few career changes before he found something he enjoys.
Most importantly, be kind to yourselves! It’ll take time for it to feel ‘normal’ on civvy street.

Thank you for your replies.
He hasn't been to any resettlement service as of yet, perhaps that is something he could consider.
I think the most worrying thing for him is going to be the routine, or lack of, and of course the humour and banter that civvy street doesn't seem to get due to PC and offended. As anyone who has served or been around the serving know, this can be very dark.
In a way, i think i will probably miss it more than he will. I will miss the patch and the pad wife way of life terribly i think.
I suppose we will both miss it for our own reasons, but i'm sure we will get through.
If he takes the position then i'm sure that will benefit him due to the structure.
Thank you for your replies