anyone out there a mum and in the forces??

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hi...a bit of a hijack but i'm interested.....i was a nurse in the army and left to have my children (i have 2) this was four years ago. i trained in the army and didn't get to any particularly dizzy height but i really loved my job and worked bloody hard at it. my dh wasn't in the army and we lived about an hour away from where i worked. i would have been posted/sent to basra after my maternity and i couldn't consider leaving husband and or baby...(my husband couldn't have left his job...university for 7yrs and just made an associate in his company. also even if i hadn't been posted becaus i did shift work child care would have been impossible..anyway was just wondering if the two mix.....

hellooooooo...?!

hi, I was but I left for the same reasons as you although DH is in the forces to. I was a nurse in the RAF, loved it, miss it but don't regret leaving

Hey goodmorningday.

I am a mum and in the Army. I have served for 16 years, been married for 3 (2nd marriage) and my dd is 2.

I'm lucky because I got a very good 'family' posting after having dd. It wasn't all good to start tho'. I went back to UK when dd was 5 months and back to work at 6 months but hubby had to stay in Germany for another 4 months before he finished (he was also Army, 22 years).

My family was fab and did 'shifts' living with me before dh came home. I did have a Nanny ut she quit (whole 'nother story), but dh has been a SAHD for last 18 months.

I still do duties and shifts and have spent the last couple of weeks helping out in the floods, but with dh at home it is easier. He goes back to work in Sep tho' so watch this space - it's gonna be hard (and I can't PVR this close to pension - what a waste)

......and maybe I should add - I actually wish I was a SAHM. After having dd I realised that I enjoyed being at home, keeping my house and cooking tea n stuff. I'm a bit of a neat freak (too many inspections lol) and enjoy my home being clean (clean, not tidy - who in the world can have a tidy house with a 2 yr old?)

Dh can't wait to go back to work - he has loved being home with dd, but misses adult conversation and being the 'breadwinner', whereas me, I would happily give it all up tomorrow.

I am pension trapped tho' so no point in complaining. Mind you, I'll wait and see what happens if I get nominated for an Op Tour..........

Hi , My aunty and her hubby are both in the army and they have a little girl who has just turned one.. She finds it hard though as since they got married 3years ago.. they have not ben posted toether, she was sent to Cyprus, then back to the uk and he has been in Germnany.. Is going back to UK next month so they can eventually begin family life.. But they cant be finding it that hard tbh as they have both gone for the commision!!.. But the little girl is in full time creche, and I know family and friends look after her quite alot so they can still do there sports etc..

wow they have a complicated life! Not one I could cope with, hence my decision to leave.

The form I was asked to sign when I went on mat leave was quite harsh - we can deploy you a the same time, can't guarentee joint postings - don't get me wrong I beleive if you are in the forces then that's the terms you sign up to with or wthout children - just not for me once DD came along, no longer 100% committed and with DH in too it just wasn;t going to work for us.

I admire those families that can make it work though - good luck to them

Yeah that's right, I did kind of think to myself as I read the form that it was their way of saying we don't want you back - but it was probably my hormones at the time making me over react

McDreamy, I totally agree with you that as soon as you're pregnant the army would rather you didn't come back - as you're likely to become an 'admin case'.

Both dh and I are serving but I've signed off (after 2nd maternity leave) and really can't wait to get out, haven't really been happy for years but money is good. Couldn't take the risk of an op tour though.

Im a CM on a army camp and all my mums are in the army, I have the children from 7.30 -4.30 everyday, and most are l;ucky that both parents are posted here, but have had some in the past that parents were posted separatly, they do seem to manage tho.