Have put up with a lot of crap, moves and time apart over the past 20 years, and I've had enough. Dh is happy as he's in a good position, goes away regularly to nice places, socialises etc. He doesn't really know what's going on at home with kids, house, other things. I've had to fit in work and everything around him. I get the feeling if I didn't take the initiative with things, nothing would happen. We wouldn't be living together in the same place (when he's not elsewhere), we'd never go out or on holiday, etc.
I'm sure I'm not the only one to suddenly realise how much their support has been used yet taken for granted. Any advice?
Has anyone's dh left the forces to improve family life or the work/life balance?
Something has got to give soon. Dh is away again atm, phoned last night (manages once or twice a week) and neither DC wanted to talk to him as they were engrossed in other things. He was super pissed off, but he's been away so much during their lifetime that they don't miss him that much when he's not here nowadays. (He joined up prekids, and I pretty much told him this would happen, so I don't feel he's got any right to be pissed off at me that they're happy without him here!?)
Sorry, that's a big rant! (I'll probably post in relationships for traffic, but would really appreciate the viewpoint of other forces wives. Thanks for reading.)