Talk me back down from the ceiling please

[financialwizard]

Not sure I can take anymore. Mr F_W's RnR has been delayed, he still doesn't know if he will go back for 3 months or 6 when he eventually has RnR.

There is a massive long line of screw up's by people in his head shed with regard to his career in the last five years and his deployment last year.

He only has a few years left to go so we have settled 40 miles from his 'normal' base. I use that term loosely because he is never home.

I am old hat at this, my Dad was Army too but I just can't seem to take it much longer. I am so fed up of being the one to pick up the pieces. Maybe it is because we are so near the end of his career now.

Someone tell me to get a grip, I feel like closing the curtains and having a good old weep, but I have the kids here and really do need to motivate myself to sort the house out and cook dinner.

Can't really help but didn't want you to go unanswered. My DH is forces too and I hate the constant uncertainty/last minute changes of plan (always to our detriment, never to our benefit!) I find sometimes a good cry actually does wonders. Keeping it all in doesn't always help. Have you for anyone nearby you could offload children on for a few hours to get a bit of time to yourself? Hope you feel better soon. I find one of the most stressful things can sometimes be the expectation that we are super wives who can manage everything all the time no matter what happens, and it's not always true! We all have bad days/weeks but you'll get through the other side, it's just sometimes a bit of a miserable journey. Sending unmumsnetty hugs.

Thanks Pass

I think the worst thing is I was beginning to think I could relax for a few days and now I can't.

Parents live not too far away but they are out today so can't have the kids. Who are pretty flabby anyway. I just want a cuddle!

Or spend money!

I sort of know how you feel right now.

DH is due home from the Falklands next Saturday morning. We live in MQs but not on his base because I have an adapted house due to being disabled and we retained it because of the stage DS2 is at with his education. DH commutes 49 miles to work.

Anyhow, I can not go on Saturday to pick him up, I never said I would btw, because DS2 is having shoulder surgery on Tuesday. I'd have to go down the night before because I can't do 2 trips in one day.

Yesterday MT phoned DH and said they didn't know if they could pick him up because we don't live on their direct route back to his parent unit. DH said it is a slight detour. Apparently it makes no difference, but they are going to check. If they don't pick him up, they will hire him a car but that won't get dropped off until 8 hours after the flight lands because you're not allowed to drive before then.

They will let him know on Tuesday.

When he went they hired him a Ford Fiesta, for 4 months luggage and kit.

It is beyond a bloody joke in the Forces atm. Christ knows why DS1 wants to join.

Ooh and I am sick of these articles on the One Show etc showing how well it works, because it doesn't work for so many of us!

Now I get your name!

Got a call saying he 'should' be on the flight tonight now. Fingers firmly crossed, but will be checking the flight before I leave.

Mr F_W welfare don't even know he has RnR. When I called to say that I would be picking him up they said that they thought he had already had RnR. You can guarantee there will be somewhere waiting when I go to pick him up now!

Just noticed I typed 'flabby' for he kids in an earlier post - obviously meant fabby!