Get comfy, this is going to be a long one!
Moved to the West Midlands 3 years ago due to DH posting. Was only ever going to be for 3 yrs then move again, as you do in the military.
We made the decision to buy a house as had move 3 times in 6 months(!) so was desperate for some stability for our older daughter who has just started studying for her GCSE's
So, I'm stuck here with our hormonal teenage daughter and our youngest, (15mths) working full time and with no family support (live 3 hrs drive away) and probably 1 person I could call a real friend (who doesn't even live that close, don't see her from one month to the next but know she's there should any emergency arrive) anyway, back to the task in hand...
DH is in Portsmouth throughout the week and home at weekends which is 100 times worse than I could ever imagine. I've stopped crying every Sunday when he leaves which is a bonus, but have turned into a crazed loony wife! His job situation means he is working with 80-90% females and i'm struggling to adjust during the week.
So, after a few weeks I got use to it, he loves me and our little family etc etc.
Comes home this weekend and I see messages pop up in the laptop whilst watching GBBO from one of the ladies he works with. They had all gone out on a bender in the week and it all got a bit, and I quote, 'inappropriate'
DH was asleep at this point but that soon changed when I challenged him about these messages...
It was basically flirtatious messages, she had gone skinny dipping when the group split at the end of the night - day after txt from DH to her says 'wish I went'. He had also said he was horny in one of the messages... There's more along those lines but nothing to suggest anything has actually happened with any of these girls, just very flirty. Few other things within the group happened that night that I'd consider normal drinker banter, but still fuels this fire!
I think he loves the attention and it feeds his ego, these girls are early to late 20's... afterall, what red blooded 30 something male wouldn'tlike the attention!! but this has crossed the harmless flirting line, if there is such a thing as harmless flirting in a happy marriage...?
I know it happens, I'm not completely naive. Go to a bar, flirt with the opposite sex, may even get a drink, but that's where it stops. Thats where the 'harmless' stops... it's the texting and reminiscing of the night out together, and the fact they work together that gets me. This week is going to be hard to say goodbye.
He has said he is sorry and would never actually do anything, and this is the wake up call he needed. He had a wave if guilt whilst texting during the week and stopped, but too little too late? That seed of doubt has been planted and my psycho stalker nature has been reignited after telling myself he needs a life Mon-Friday too!!! Even though I don't have any me time, ever. Deep down I know he would never cheat me, but I already feel cheated on through these messages. It's just going to be very hard to forget
Just want to know really is anyone else in my situation where their hubby is away during the week? Not sure if I can cope with this for 3 years, strongly considering renting the house and moving back into MQ in Portsmouth, but it's such an upheaval for the girls.... And at such s crucial time in DDs education. Feeling very confused right now. You guys are the only ones that may know how I feel being apart from the man I love!