I'm asking here, cos you know all how it works!

[Saltire]

A child who gets the same school bus as the Dses keeps asking them for money. He says they owe him it for borrowing something of his ages ago. h ekeeps threatning them with "his dad" or "his big brother" and Ds2 is getting quite stressed out with the whole thing

Anyway, seeing as DH is away and Ds2 in particular is getting really stressed and bothered by that, plus getting upset over this should I
A) Go and have a chat with OC PSF (the boss of the dad)
B_ Have a chat with the RAFP and ask them to have a quiet chat with the lad
C_ Ring DHs boss and ask him to sort it out, via the dad
D_Go to welfare (not keen on this option).

I should say the mum and dad are what I would term....well rough. They refuse to believe that their children misbehave and blame everyone else and I am, TBH not willing to go round there myself as they are liable to make trouble plus they will know DH is away

Any advice apprecaited

Oh gosh Saltire 'tis a nightmare. I would always say remove yourself by at least one person. Welfare is very 'formal' and I would avoid. Speak to your hubby's boss (or rear party if you have one). They should be bending over backwards to make sure that you have as little (additional) stress as possible while DH away. I would not go the other dads boss as this could be seen as 'stitching him up' whereas speaking to your husbands boss is only dealing with your welfare concerns - I know the difference is slight but is only my opinion.

If it makes you feel any better my hubby is away and I sold a double buggy which was immaculate as I only used it for afew weeks for a short term baby placment really cheaply. Sold very quickly. I then got an abusive email becuase someone had emailed to say she 'might' be interested in it, and I should have known that meant not to sell it to anyone else whilst she thought about it as now she had missed out on a bargain!! Hate the 'patch' mentality sometimes.

Good luck

I didn't particularly want to go to welfare TBH, they are crap and won't help anyone who is non-military and that includes spouses

I think you should speak to the school. You know the child and they will be able to sort it. If they say it's not their problem as it's not in school time, tell them that he could also be doing it at school too and he's bullying them.

School are not allowed to tell the bully's parents who the person he is bullying is - they will give them the details and ask that they stop it or they'll have to take it further.

Then, if nothing positive happens, I'd involve welfare.

How old are your dses again Saltire?

14 and 12

What a nightmare for you. I agree with loopy speak to the school first especially if this is happening on a school bus and then if not welfare.
Hope you get it sorted.