Do I "have" to have a point of contact?

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I don't want one. There's not one of DH's colleagues or anyone else on this base who i trust or want anywhere near me.

I've been doing this for 19 years now,a nd yes I know it's "there" that he's going to but I don't actually want anyone to get in touch, they are bunch of useless tossers, the whole lot of them. However, DH says I "have to have a POC," and that it would be assuring for him

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Do you mean like a families officer that keeps in touch with you whilst DH is away, or a person that would be the one to tell you if the worst should happen?

I don't know what it's like in the Army, but in the RAF you get a point of contact for if you have a problem, or someones harrassing you (that is likely to hapen to me), or you need to know something, and Is uppose to be there to inform you if the worst happens

every other OOA DH has done I've had a PoC, but thats because I liked the people he worked with/for.

I was never appointed a PoC , I don't think they liked me much!

I think the serving spouse/partner has to allocate a PoC. I say that because DH keeps asking who I'd like

I think it's voluntary as DH always used to say he didn't bother as he assumed I would be ok

I've never had one.

Tis no bother, just let him choose someone. You can be very busy if they call and you are ok and can't be bothered to talk.

If the worst happened they'd tell you even if he didn't have a poc lol.

It's just a way of proving they are covering the welfare bases. Some spouses are vulnerable and need regular contact.

You don't have to talk to them. They'll just tick a box and write the date in they called, so that if you later whine that you didn't get any support, they can say, 'but x called you on such and such a date, and such and such a date, and you said you were fine and didn't need a call back'. The spouses and parents of ours that didn't want a poc just requested no further calls, which was logged.

You've been around long enough to know how to play it. Just nod and smile, and do your own thing. No real point chafing against a system that's been implemented as a result of spouses not getting enough support.