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Forces sweethearts

If you have a family member in the Royal Navy, RAF or army, find support from other Mumsnetters here.

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AArgh have spent too much time on MN

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MrsSnaplegs · 07/04/2011 16:22

I have clearly spent too much time on here during maternity leave

Went to the hairdressers during my lunch break - we live in a small village close to a small town on the coast. There are 3 patches within a 3 mile radius but rarely do they seem to intermingle

Lady sat next to me chatting to her hairdresser

clearly just moved in locally (she said where)
DH army (again she said in her conversation)

She then started chatting about her DC

So me being Mrs Helpful interrupts their conversation with "ooh did you know there are such and such locally I'm sure your children would love it " etc etc

Got a blank look even thogh I was sat there in uniform so clearly of the same forces mentality

Obviously I have spent too much time on MN and become far too much of an interfering busybody

Next time will keep my mouth shut and stop trying to be friendly and helpful.

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vintageteacups · 07/04/2011 16:52

Back at work already Mrssnaplegs?

How weird of the other lady to balnk you. Didn't she even say a thank you?

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MrsSnaplegs · 07/04/2011 18:21

I know it was a bit strange. Maybe I was just too enthusiastic

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mpsw · 09/04/2011 18:15

Must have been an officer's wife

vintageteacups · 09/04/2011 22:22

why do you say that mpsw?

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MrsSnaplegs · 09/04/2011 22:34

Mpsw but I am an officer and was in uniform so couldn't be a prejudice thing

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mpsw · 10/04/2011 08:57

Why couldn't it be prejudice? Senior officer's wives are

It's not unknown for there to be posts here about unpleasant senior officer's wives - and obviously I tend to notice them. And it's not just the occasional posters who make them.

Remember the "we're all dim" thread where everyone took the joke together? Well, this was my joke against myself.

I am sorry my comment misfired. Perhaps this is a self-awareness moment for me that maybe I have become too different, and of course all stereotypes begin with a grain of truth.

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MrsSnaplegs · 10/04/2011 09:16

Mpsw sorry probably took you too seriously! Anyway where she lives he could only be a maj unto full col
Not sure if it was a service thing I'm dark blue she was green

I have to say all the senior officers wives I have met are lovely in fact one of my best friends is one! But then she always says she's not typical!

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vintageteacups · 10/04/2011 12:33

It is my mission in life to break down the 'officer's wife' stereotype.

mpsw · 12/04/2011 07:48

MrsSnapLegs: I'm sorry for spoiling your thread.

But you've posted something which essentially says: "I know one is lovely, but that's not typical" and this seems to be the normal view. I'm not going to make assume that I am also exceptional, and have realised from reactions to how I post that I don't really fit here

VintageTeaCups: I wish you well in your campaign.

vintageteacups · 12/04/2011 09:48

mpsw - what do you mean you don't fit in here? You have as much right as anyone else to be on here.

I guess it's just strange to make comments about officers wives in a Forces wives section where there are lots of officers wives.

I just think it's a bit different when someone comments about an individual person/event rather than assuming that all officers wives are like you imply .

As you were

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MrsSnaplegs · 12/04/2011 11:48

MPSW

you haven't spoiled the thread in anyway and I hate that you feel you don't fit in here of all places as vintage said if we can't talk here where can we go!

As I said before all the senior officers wives I have met are lovely

My initial post was more getting at myself in that I have clearly gone into the situation all guns blasing with my I can solve anything MN head on and I think she was obviously a bit taken aback by how nosey and interfering helpful I was trying to be

Because I was in uniform (so clearly an officer myself) I assumed she would be chatty and friendly and find the advice helpful - clearly I was wrong.

MPSW Please stay here with us I really value your contributions on this sub forum.

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scaryteacher · 12/04/2011 12:23

MPSW - don't be daft; all Mrs S was saying was that she butted into a conversation and got blanked.

Define a senior officers wife anyway? What rank is senior - to me that's 1/2 and above; to an RN Lts wife, I'd count as a senior officers wife, so it all depends what your dh is. Anyway, they have the rank we (apart from Mrs S) don't.

Kleftico · 12/04/2011 13:26

Haha! I do this Snaplegs, constantly butting in lol! People don't always appreciate it!

Chulita · 12/04/2011 13:36

I'm going to keep scouring this topic now, waiting for the 'some random Forces woman was telling me where to send my children' thread
Don't stop butting in though snaplegs, I always appreciate someone eavesdropping suggesting things. I'm currently waiting for a picnic table delivery after the neighbour overheard me saying to DH that I'd like one and she told me they were on sale in town :)

mpsw the clue was in the in your post right? keep posting, we've all been misunderstood on here because you just can't read posts in the tone they were written!

mpsw · 24/04/2011 17:37

MrsSnaplegs: I've not flounced. It is however abundantly clear from the continuing comments how very badly I got things wrong. I may still turn up from time to time - not sure I'll ever make valuable comments though.

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