well that's it he's gone.....

[davidtennantsmistress]

left the UK an hour ago, had a nice long chat before he went on the phone (went to yesterday but within our shores)

119 more nights to go! :o

am surprisingly calm after the messing about we've had, the tears were shed, the emotions running very high but am now looking forward to relaxing (for about a week then will get upset again lol)

Best bit though was him confirming today one of the other lads can do his job out there so ether way he'll deffo be home in time for the baby coming - I think that's the bit that both of us wanted to hear the most.

good luck to both of you! It will fly by with summer on it's way. I have sat at home for two tours now and the one during UK summertime was by far the fastest passing of the two. So exciting that he will be back for the baby too - you can pass the time nesting furiously!!!

I shall be thanks, have sat at home for the 6 months during oct-april before now - went quickly by painting the house lol.

fingers crossed it flys - least there's only a few days till the next call. :) and fingers crossed I get a good mark on my course work assignments due in during this time lol.

oooh - what course are you doing? I'm trawling the OU and similar for something to get my teeth into...

an open degree in maths - v v challenging, just changed thou to accounting as the maths was far far too intense lol.

Oh, thinking of you! Summer tours definitely better.

Good luck for your course too

blimey - well that is sure to keep you occupied!

it is,

thanks hf12.

what is it thou, the weekends are the worst bits as are afte DS is in bed. (lots of study time lol)

I know just how you feel. If you're like me - that's one of the worst bits out of the way.

Keep as busy as you can; give yourself treats now and then and always have those milestones to count down to. So glad to hear he'll be back for your baby's arrival. Do you post on any forums with other members of your DP's unit? I found that really useful and supportive when my OH was away recently - even if we talked total inane bollocks, it was a shared experience!

Just remember, every second that passes is a second closer to you being back together again.

yeah him leaving was the worst bit, esp as I dropped him to work monday only to get a call half hour later saying yup come pick me up as it's tomorrow now we're going but least we found out some more info on the way about what's happening for the next 3 weeks, my boss bless him is being fab as well - giving me a bigger work load to train someone which might sound bad but likewise it's how I like to function keeping busy. :)

tbh I don't know any of the girls from his unit (well a couple from the odd function but not for a good natter) so will stick to the support network I know & love.

don't like hearing him down and missig home - guess least we get to carry on & have plenty to do, the lads don't have a right lot to do unless something happens really with his job. :(

Know what you mean in you last paragraph, DTM - I could never bear to think of my husband missing home and our children. No matter how much I missed him, at least I always saw our daughters every day. If your DP has periods of not much happening, that must be tough for him.

What will your communication be like whilst he's away? Are you able to exchange emails/ phone calls much? I remember the days when it was letters only - it seems hard to believe now; I take email for granted. In the not-so-good-old days, normal communications (particularly S. Atlantic) could mean a six-week turn-around on a question asked in a letter - but how we treasured those written words; to be taken out of the envelope and read, over and over... I hardly ever write actual letters now; I think it's quite sad in a way, but I wouldn't go back to how it was for any money!

Hope you hear from your DP soon - safe passage to him.

thanks talc, I think that's the hardest bit for most of us guys really isn't it - after they've gone away, althou we have developed a little system of pulling each other around again when we're a bit down.

Emails will be when he can get to the computer (about 5/6 I believe and about 600 personnel so i'm not expecting it often.) letters obviously we'll send and parcels to keep moral up - for both of us mostly tbh. and he'll ring when he can do I know, has the 30 mins of cards but also took his phone - not sure he's likely to get a signal in the middle of the sea but hey ho we can hope lol. between his mum & I we'll be in touch as well, so if he can't ring one he can ring the other and we'll check in our side.

Was a little spoilt with XH - his job meant he had constant computer/internet when in iraq, so it will be a challenge, but will stay strong thou as like you say it's crushing to hear him down, especially as he misses the kids walking the dogs & of course the bump growing. Still 118 nights to go now. :o