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First Move, Some Questions Please

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midori1999 · 31/01/2011 16:58

DH has his first posting since we have been married. He is starting his new job in April, but for various reasons, including a very high risk pregnancy, I am staying here until August, when I have had the baby and the children have finished the school year.

DH hasn't recieved hi sposting order as yet, but has tentatively spoken to DE about permisson for our pets, as we have rather a few, inluding 4 dogs. There's no problem there, but it seems the larger 4 bedroom houses we were hoping to get have a waiting list and all that are available are three bedrooms or small four bedroom with 'gardens like psotage stamps' according to the woman DH spoke to. I know we just have to take what is offered, but we will have four children, plus DH's two visiting, so even small 4 bed will be a squeeze.

As DH's posting order isn't through yet, we can't go on the waiting list either. Is this normal? How far in advance do posting orders normally come through and how long is the wait for a bigger 4 bedroom likely to be, or is that a 'how long is a piece of string' question?

I sound like a moaner, sorry. I think pregnancy hormones, havin an absolutely lovely quarter where we are and being a control freak have made this a huge issue for me. Blush

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vintageteacups · 31/01/2011 17:35

Explain to the HIC about your circumstances - they will then at least know your situation - even if it makes no difference.

Explain about the pets/children/step children etc.

In many quarters, younger kids can easily share a bedroom with plenty of space but it does just depend on what you get.

Where are you going - then perhaps someone can tell you about free quarters coming up that you can put on your list. Is it NI?

Top tip - don't be arsey with the HIC - be all "woe is me - I'm so hormonal and (sob, sob) am really worried as it's our first married posting etc, etc and I really wondered if you could help me/give me some advice etc. Sound genuinely upset and they might be more willing to help.

A friend recently did this and it worked a treat. I've been a bit assertive in the past and they just froze and did as little as possible.

vintageteacups · 31/01/2011 17:36

Aha - I see it's not your post that mentions NI - but someone else.

So roughly which area are you going to?

midori1999 · 31/01/2011 18:53

Thanks, we're in NI at the moment and will be going to Edinburgh.

Is it normal not to get a posting order as soon as you know your posting?

I'm sure it will all work out in the end, it's just frustrating.

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vintageteacups · 31/01/2011 19:06

It can take a while for them to send it through. We desperately needed ours a couple of months back as the school apps needed to have the posting order with them. DH asked the guy up in Glasgow to sort it but then the guy went on leave or something and it took 3 or 4 weeks from when he said he'd send it. In the end, DH asked the secretary up there to sort it and she chased the guy up etc.

It was annoying though.

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