If you needed some advice/help etc would you

[Saltire]

go to Padre or SSAFFA?

I am thinking of Padre, but not sure if they can help. It's, to be honest, more emotional advice than practical!

Neither - use MN!

Padre I suppose as it won't go further, whilst SSAFA may take it further?

Did you get the door sorted with your tenant?

scary - yes we did, she has decided that she wants to pay for a new door herself.
If only that was the least of my troubles

It's hard to say without outing myself. Got hassles with one or 2 of the neighbours. It's affecting my health - have had a really bad flare up (first one since we moved) for a week now, haven't slept properly for more than 2 weeks, and DH and I actually raised our voices at each other, which we never do. I've been in tears so often I feel totally drained.

remember it doesn't have to be military source if it's not a military problem per se - gp?

if it's specifically military related, (deployment/ ptsd/ work stress) then either of the above, selection to be based largely on personal characterisitics of both. have you had any contact with either of them before?

padre usually best tbh, unless o'seas and you have a ssafa social worker on site.

does dh have a sympathetic boss that you could get some advice from if it involves both of you?

Saw SSAFFA when we first got here, she is aware of my health problems. there is also a military community support worker on base, who is aware of my health problems and some of the neighbourhood issues, however, I don't feel entirely comfortable confiding in him, I don't trust him to keep what I've told him confidential

I am ill over this situation, and need to get it sorted

then i would suggest ask for joint meeting with all 3 - ssafa, community support and padre. tell them you are at the end of your tether and need someone to help you. and stress confidentiality. or just ask to see the two and leave the support worker out of it if you wouldn't be comfortable. if they all individually know you have been struggling, then you need to take it up a notch until some concrete support/ action is in place.

have you seen your gp as well?

herbie - facebook is part of the cause of the problems. I posted a comment, in which I named no-one, I said something about being knocked over by an "idiot on a bike".
One neighbour, who already has had screaming sessions at my friend/neighbour (I'll call my friend Jane for the sake of this)on the street, decided this was about her - she doesn't even go out on a bike, but focused ont eh word idiot. Now she has been slagging me off to anyone who will listen, she rings up DH (and I know that you know what his job is) telling him that I'm playing music loud on the street, or that I am spying on her etc.
She also passionatelty hates the couple who have moved in opposite me (her Dh is the new neighbours boss) and she has started a campaign against me, Jane and lady opposite. She called out MPGS last week, becaUSEJane, new lady and I were in Jane's house, having a glass of wine and she told MPGS that we were in Jane's garden shouting abuse at her. She cannot even see Jane's garden from her house.

Blimey Saltire, you have gone from the frying pan into the fire with your move.

assuming your dh is somewhere in the welfare chain/ housing chain, i might be tempted to get him to speak with her dh about whether she needs some help/ support.

obviously she's making your life a total misery, but is she lonely/ depressed/ any other issues going on? maybe she's jealous of the new friends you have made, when you have only just arrived/ she's been there ages and hasn't got a support network... dunno, really, just musing aloud.

it might be interesting to do the opposite of what your instincts tell you, and invite her to the next gathering? it'll disarm her at least...

yuk. neighbour stuff is the worst.

fivegomad - I could quite easily pack my bags and leave. The stress had made me ill again, after I was doing so well away from mad cow at old house. I bet this is her evil twin up here

Poor you Saltire. I don't have any advice for you, but can only say I have now learnt (through bitter experience ) that I do not involve myself with anyone to closely so I don't get affected by their mad behavior. IYSWIM .
Also there is always 1 lunatic in every street/ village, just keep in mind its not you and give her a stiff ignoring, its very liberating . Hope you get sorted and feel better soon. TC

Just ignore her; get your dh to give his boss a heads up on what is happening, and don't give her any ammunition on FB. How is she even seeing what you have posted if (as I understand it as I don't do FB) she isn't one of your friends, how does she have access? Change your privacy settings if necessary.

She can't see what I aam writing (or my friend Jane for that matter) as our setting are "friends only" and she's been blocked by both of us. Neither Jane or I even have mutual friends who can see what's being written - but nothing is being written about her she's so paranoid that she thinks it is,
was outside the front of the house today talking to my next door neighbour who has jsut go tback from holiday and this woman came over nad started yelling that we were talking about her - which we weren't we were talking bout Russia