How do you manage with 'family' meals if.....

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you still have to feed your children full fat everything, but are trying not to become a heffalump yourself in the process?

DS is just coming up for one, and the idea is supposed to be to move him on to eating smaller, minced/mashed up versions of family means. Prob is, DH works away all the time, and I end up having a pretty crappy diet. Even if I am eating well, its still all low fat stuff, and would not be suitable to share with DS.

How do you get around this? To what extent will you cook separate food for your DCs?

It's never too early to start good eating habits (I speak as someone who has battled with being over weight all my life) - if you eat things like grilled chicken, lean meat, poached fish etc with plenty of vegetables this will be fine for your child. You can still give him full fat milk, yogurts etc, bread and butter to fill up on if necessary - just avoid any processed and junk food. If you need to add 'gravy' to mash up the food you can make it without fat. Good luck, I know it is very, very hard.

I used to cook our usual low fat type of food but would add 'extras' on the children's portions like a glug of olive oil or grated cheese or something.

Well this is the prob, I rarely eat "meals". I normally snack and graze and cobble together whatever's in the fridge. I can be organised for about 2 weeks max, and then I slip back to being crap again. I wish I was different

I've got the same issue - I physically can't eat full-fat stuff.
On my days off with ds I tend to make us sandwiches for lunch as he eats much better if I eat too - I also role-model eating piles of fruit which he ignores. His sarnies tend to be peanut butter or cheese.
For his dinner I tend to be creative with leftovers and use the microwave - eg pasta or rice plus a drop of pasta sauce and a bit of cheese, microwaved. So all his meals are 'cobbled together' - his main calories come from his yoghurts, bananas, and milk.

We do proper family breakfasts and another meal on the weekends, though, but again it's more for the social aspect as Mr Fusspot won't eat much.