Should I forget snacks to get her to eat more

[Denmark]

I don't think my 17 mth old daughter is eating enough. She eats plenty for breakfast (2 weatabix w/milk) but it is very hard to get her to eat anything for lunch and dinner. She is a VERY VERY fussy eater and sometimes she will not eat anything except a few slices of apple etc. even food she likes and just to get to eat something before bedtime I offer weatabix and she will eat 2 hole, so I know she is hungry.
She is growing normally, her weight is average and she has plenty of energy and is very happy, she also sleep through from 19H00 until 06-07H00 without waking. I have tried to feed her in front of tv (bad idea i know), I am leaving differnt kinds of snack on the sofatable so she can help herself when she is playing (which she does but not enough)and most of the time I am having my lunch etc and the table with heras a family, she likes that alot and sometimes she will eat a lot, but most of the time just a little babybel, little bit of sausage etc.
So I was wondering if it to extreame to leave out any kind of snack, biscuits, apple, banana etc. and just offer her Breakfast, lunch and dinner and her milk ?

Denmark, my 17 month old won't eat much either. I am staying at my mum's at the moment and I can honestly say that in the last week and a half she hasn't eaten one full meal apart from breakfast.
I am in custy's camp in that I won't give DD snacks as an 'instead of' option. If she won't eat breakfast she gets nothing instead ... but I will give her some fruit at 10am. If she won't eat lunch I won't give in and give her something else until she wakes from her nap later. Then I offer her a healthy snack but not something that will fill her up. This evening she wouldn't eat any dinner and my mother was horrified that I didn't sit there for ages and try and coax her. She had maybe 3 mouthfuls of dinner and when she started spitting it out I put the dinner away. My mum and I had a heated discussion about it and she said I should try harder and 'make' her eat it. I have lasting memories of my mother force feeding me food I didn't like/want so I refuse to do that with my children but I won't give in and give them other stuff instead. If they don't want their meal they can wait until it is an 'official' snack or mealtime for something else.
Of course at bedtime, when I wasn't looking (getting DS bathed) my mum and dad were giving DD biscuits and crisps, which made me cross but I forgive them as we don't see much of them usually and they are doting grandparents.
Anyway, my point is: My DD is healthy and chubby ... she has lost weight recently because she is being such a nightmare but I firmly believe that she will 'get it' eventually and begin to eat properly again.

Sorry Louise I know I'm going to get shot down here, but a 9 month old that doesn;t eat for 5 days isn't being fussy - they are ill. And no you couldn't have cooked a roast dinner at 3am but fruit would have been instant and staved off the hunger. And now at 19 months old he will react totally differnt to when he was 9 months old. Isn;t it worth trying again - yes you may get a few sleepless nights but surely that's better than a lifetime of crap food.

Now I'll duck....

Hiya titchy. No you won't get shot down. I have crohns disease and my son also has a lot of sensitivities to food such as acid, spicy hard to digest food. He can not eat any raw fruit only soya/goats yoghurts and then he is pooing so much after for hours, i am not sure if these are right for him either. Most vegetables apart from the mild ones like peas, carrot, sweetcorn, potatoes, sweet potatoes, buttersquash are ok. I had 3 months of happy cooking eating very healthy from 6-9 months. Then he stopped. I still cook these foods but they go straight on the floor. They don't even touch his mouth. My partner does shift and works most days so i am on my own, with no family. I have just had a baby girl, she is completely didfferent to my ds. She seems to love food at the moment. But i will not give in after 5 days with her as i have seen what can happen. The doctors have said they will not test him for allergies until he is 3. I have had private testing and all the above food came up and confirmed my thoughts of him not being able to eat certain foods. Last time i ate fruit which was approx 10 years ago. i never found it filling either. i forgot banans and milk we can't have either. But please offer any other alternatives if yu know of any.