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Pudding panic

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RorysRacingReindeer · 14/12/2009 19:48

FIL brought over a couple of Christmas puds in October - one for DH's mum and one for us. So i told my mum we had one. She said she was making hers next week.

DH is adamant we should have his dad's and apparently my mum has been discussing it with my sister and they want to have hers. My family will be at my house for Christmas (for the first time ever).

So do we have my mum's, which is admittedly bloody gorgeous or FIL's? Part of me wants to stick FIL's on - it's our Christmas and it really annoys me when my sister tells me what to do.

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merrycompo · 14/12/2009 19:50

Jeez this is why I hate this time of yr
people behave like fools
so if fil isn't going to be there eat yr mum's

TheRedQueen · 14/12/2009 20:07

Eat FIL's. He made and gave you his first and your mum knew that when she decided to make you another.

BikeRunSki · 14/12/2009 20:21

Can't you have both? Are both families coming to Christmas lunch? Can you have one for now and one for later - eat the one of whichever side of family is coming to lunch. DH loves Christmas pud. His mum makes us one, him one for later, and then he goes to the supermarket and buys up all the leftovers that have been marked down in the new year. WE frequentlyl have Christmas pud until about July - he tries to save one for his birthday (very odd Aussie type feeling eating Christmas pud in July).

120cmsOfSnow · 15/12/2009 08:47

I'd say both too. That way you can have a direct comparison . And its nice cold for breakfast the next day.

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RorysRacingReindeer · 16/12/2009 20:39

It's the snide asides of my sister 'we're not going to have his are we' that drive me closer to doing the opposite to spite.

And her comments about how Christmas is supposed to be done 'don't you remember when everyone went to Aunt R's and they did this and everyone was .

This is my first Christmas in my new home with my family I'll do it how dh and i feel like doing it, but then i don't know if I'm being bloody minded

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GinandChocolate · 16/12/2009 20:51

Your house; your rules. Start your own traditions now and tell yous sister she can have things her way when she hosts Christmas.

octavia · 17/12/2009 08:54

I wouldn't say who's it is, serve the one up you want to have and be done with it, your sister can eat it or sulk - her choice

MortaIWombat · 17/12/2009 09:17

Your sister is unmarried, hmm? So she feels (subconsciously) that if she succeeds in bending you to her will and getting you to use your mother's pudding, she will narrow the gap between the two of you: you will no longer be the 'more adult" by virtue of being married and having the choice to begin your own family traditions. Hmmmmm...

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RorysRacingReindeer · 17/12/2009 20:47

Hmm nice try wellies - but she got married in 2005, but there's definitely a lot of stuff about her being the naughty middle child, and me being the goody two shoes with 'secrets' i wouldn't tell my parents. But then she got semi-conventional and i had a child out of wedlock.

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AMumInScotland · 17/12/2009 21:02

If your mum knew you already had one, then presumably she's not hurt or upset about any of this? So I'd tell your sister that it's already arranged tbh - it's really nothing to do with her.

MortaIWombat · 17/12/2009 21:12

best of luck with it! I'd just use his pudding, as Redqueen said. Your mum sounds like she's trying to start a pudding popularity contest!

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