ok i have just had a moment with dh about dc's eating habbits does anyone else have this problem?

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its just been anounced by dh that dss will not eat the chicken cassarole prepared for dinner evan though iv done all in my power to make it as simple (boring)as possible i even went as fare as to buy packet mix's for it as i know he prefers pakets jars ect. all thats in it are carrots chicken and 1 onion is it too much to expect him to eat it? as our dc 1 and 3 will do so dss is 10. probably should have posted this somwhere else but wasnt quite sure were. but does anyone else have this same problem? and how do you get round it apart from cooking very basic boring meals all the time

can you let me know when you find out?

I would just give him whatever you are having with the casserole - jacket, rice whatever and maybe some grated cheese but make sure he knows he could^ have some if he wants

i know i just begrudge cooking more than one meal oh well maybe someone will have the answer

You don't have to cook more than one meal though. He eats it or he doesn't - his choice!

you cant really do that with step children though think will just anounce that from now on i will cook what we eat dh can cook what dss will eat easy enough

Why can't you do that for step children? He's in your family with your rules, put it on his plate along with everyone else and if he eats he thats that. I assume thats what you do with your dc?

Tell your DH to cook another meal for his son then if he wants to pander to him.

yes if dh is changing the rules for dss let him cook something else

Yes, sorry, I can see that's a difficult situation. I agree that dh, not you, should cook something different if dss won't eat what you've cooked.

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id a kid doesn't like it - thats different from them being fussy

of course children should be served food they like

but when one child dictates mealtimes and makes the whole think a bloody nightmare you have to draw a line.

i have a son who has a thin stomach lining - he sufers from stomach problems and he is a fussy eater.

i think his problems stem from his refusal to eat a decent meal and its turned into a catch 22.

coming in from work and starting to cook for 5 people is no joke when one says 'i dont' like this and the other says 'i dont like that'

its a case of - its on your plate - eat it or dont.

thats not to say you dont try to accomodate the fussy kids eating styles - i did cook what i knew he liked - which in turn wasn't what his twin or brother likes.

but d'ya knwo what - its tough shit - i cook it - it it or don't

i try to be accomodating - if you want to skip a meal - fine Hezus monkey boy ( his real name) no skin off my nose.

the alternative when they are teenagers is for them to make it themselves.

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agreed bloss, the op has to handle this carefully.

how about the kids sit down and do a meal plan for the weekends that the step kid is there.

learning to negotiate and you could plan in advance and put the chart up on the wall.

even get them to make it ( if old enough)

We only got back from holiday today and had nothing in. I made cheese on toast for lunch and DS1 refused to eat it saying he didn't like it. I told him fine but he had to sit at the table while DD and DS2 ate theirs and there would be nothing until tea time. Later DH let him have an apple (I was food shopping) but I have refused to let him have anything else. This is part of me trying to sort out things in his house where currently the kids dictate and DH and I shout too much.

just an update if all are interested i ignored dh and served us all the same told dss to just pick out what he wanted but dont fuss about it ha ate it all and dd had seconds (no suprise as she's a ganit) i think part of the prob is dh telling dss everything we are going to eat befor hand and giving too much choice as i always make sure to cook things i know dss will eat else were i.e his mums nana's ect anyway thats done with now

That is good.