Mummy feed me - no way!!!

[Ipswich]

Hi My little girl has never liked anything but mummy. Never had a bottle, will reluctently accept formula (75-100ml) from a beaker, she only allows the spoon for pudding feeding and breakfast and has started waking at least twice a night for a BF amtrying to be strong but give in too often. I am trying to please her too much and don't know what to do with her!!! PLEASE HELP!!

How old is she?

She's nine months and is VERY independent!

You've got to try and stop the night feeds but I know how hard it is. We had to let our first child cry in the night because I was so exhausted. It only took about a week and then she slept through. With the second it was harder because he was waking her up, but in the end we put him in the travel cot in the lounge and shut the door and let him get on with it. Cruel I know, but he only did it once. Decide what you think is the best course of action and then really stick to it. As for the eating thing, will she eat finger foods?

yes she eats finger foods when she fancies the idea, she knows she is playing with me but she ends up winning! This is my first time on mumsnet, already feel better just reading thru, not sure what DD and Ds mean though please let me know, in fact she is just waking now!

DD= Darling Daughter/DS=Darling Son.

I guess I'm not a fan of night-weaning a 9 month old. I would try to fill her up at bedtime with finger foods. And otherwise I suspect teething; it's the right age for it. You could try some CalPol and see if suddenly she sleeps a lot better?

Finger foods can be very filling; there's nothing wrong with independence; I was an independent little girl . Can you give her bread soaked in olive oil or with cream cheese spread? Plenty of calories in those. Slice grapes lengthwise; peas, chunks of banana... Greek yogurt (which is extra fatty, Rachel's Dairy do a Bio-Live Greek yogurt) & extra-filling. Guess I'm just blathering, but you get the idea.

I've tried the cream cheese and she loved it! Guess i can give her anuthing we have and mash it up and chop into finger foods she is still sleeping badly i suspect its a combination of teething and of being lonely, she is quite unhappy and made herself really sick last night when i tried to leave her to cry a bit! i was in with her for about 2 hours in the night and she was not interested in sleeping past 5.30 this morning unless it was with me, sleep deprivation is the worst thing!

Aaah Zebra! Thank goodness someone cleared that up! I started using ds dd dp etc etc just to follow the crowd, but was never quite sure of what they stood for exactly. I'm presuming dp = Darling Partner??

Sorry.... change of subject... I have no constructive advice to offer coz my 20mth old ds is STILL waking in the night for juice/water!!! I have no willpower. >sigh<
Good luck Ipswich.

thanks for all your help, i think once i read how many mums have problems that i relaxed and she is now much better, however, DD is the winner she is nowonly waking once at night for a cuddle, have not fed her for ages and she is eating better during the day, will keep reading though as tonight could change completely!!

My DS was like this with the solids at that age. He would only be spoonfed pudding and cereal. Actually if you do a search you should be able to find info on this because I've shared my experiences before. But basically the finger food route worked for us with anything and everything - cauliflower cheese, mashed potato, all kinds of veg (eg peas, brocolli, green beans etc), pieces of chicken. In fact DS ate his entire first Christmas dinner with his fingers. Go with the cream cheese and yoghurts etc. Also banana very filling.

I think the night waking is a seperate issue to do with her enjoyment/comfort of you and the breast. But she is definitely old enough not to need a night feed. Have you tried the much advocated trick of sending in your partner in order to remove the option of the breast? Might be a good idea to wait until the weekend and then try this?