arghhhhhh so peed off with my mother

[nappyaddict]

How can i get her to stop feeding ds crap? I am sure the reason he has started to refuse what I give him is cos my mum keeps giving him crap like chocolate, cakes and crisps and he thinks if he won't eat what I give him then I'll give him that sort of stuff too.

Have you asked her not to? Daft Q maybe

Perhaps tell a white lie and say HV/GP/Dentist has advised that he doesn't have things like that at the moment .... or just tell her very firmly that she is NOT to give him it. I did the latter and it did work

Yes I have. The answer I get is but that's what he asked for. Or he helped himself which I don't believe cos he can't open wrappers himself.

Just tell her he's too young to be given the choice! Better to just give him X rather than say "what do yiou want?"

does she have him often? Can you avoid having him there for meals?

Oh I sympathise, I stayed with my mum this weekend and she is WONDERFUL to ds in every way, except he won't sit still long enough to eat a meal while he's there so she fills him up with biscuits and cakes and yoghurts - presumably can't bear to think he's going hungry, bless her.

Am I right in thinking you live with your mum? Because I just let it go on the grounds that being at Nanny's is a treat anyway but I guess that won't work if you live together.

How old is he? I think you have to allow a certain amount of crap at grandparents' houses, but make it clear that there are Granny Rules and Mummy Rules and they are different

Also, could you compromise? E.g. occasional cake is OK but not salty crisps.

Also how old is your DS? A couple of months ago I daftly had a doze on the sofa one morning leaving a lion bar on the table - ds managed to get it open and scoff the whole thing and he was about 16 months then.

I think what MamaG said about saying the HV or whoever has said not to let him have chocolate etc is probably the best way forward. Or tell your mum that if she will insist on filling him with sweets she can be responsible for getting healthy food in him as well

She doesn't ask him what he wants. He just points at the cupboard and says bic bic, caaaaake, crips, choc choc so she gives them to him. He's just turned 2.

Mindalina - i think it's the same sort of thing here. If he doesn't eat his lunch or whatever she thinks it's better for him to at least have something (ie crap) than go hungry. Yes I live with her so it's hard to just let it go.

She knows I don't see a HV or Dentist so that wouldn't work and even if I did she wouldn't listen. She says when I'm looking after him it's up to me what I give him to eat.

why doesn't he see a dentis? he shpould be seeing a dentist every six months nappyaddict.

i really think you need to look further into moving out you know.

oh, stamp yuor foot time I think. Don't let her ge away with it - and provide healthy things she can give him if she insists on letting him snack. Hard if you live together, but you need to make a stand before he thinks its the norm.

My mother is the other way round, and won't let ine have ANYTHING!!

Yes, take him to the dentist nappy and say they've said he's having too much junk. If you tell her he's in danger of having to have fillings etc maybe she'll listen.

There is healthy things for him to snack on but she doesn't give them to him. I am trying to move out but the list round here is ages long. Dentist said he didn't need to go yet.

Are you due for a check up? You could go and take him too (good for them to see you going before they go themselves), and then say the dentist had a look while you were there and said etc etc..

I rang them up and the woman didn't really seem to know what to do so she said she would get so and so to ring me when she got back off her holiday.